March 27, 2026

Dating Without The Swipe

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Does dating without the swipe work? Swiping promised “more options,” but it also trained us to treat people like thumbnails. We sit down in the humble backyard studio with Krista and Ricker, crack a a few beers, and stumble into a surprisingly honest conversation about modern dating, online dating apps, and what gets lost when connection becomes a quick yes or no.

Krista brings the perspective of being back in the dating world, including a bold move inviting herself into a pool game and the awkward aftermath of seeing someone again in real life. That opens the door to the bigger stuff: why texting feels safer than calling, why voicemails became “annoying,” and how fear of rejection quietly shapes how people flirt, ghost, and avoid direct conversation. We also talk about how confidence changes with age, and why older wisdom can help younger people who grew up behind screens.

Then things get spicy in the most unfiltered way possible: a debate about power, desire, and what people are really chasing when they date, plus a cameo from Rayette that tilts the whole argument. We wrap with practical, grounded advice for meeting people offline, building relationships through “third places,” and staying true to what you actually like doing instead of performing a lifestyle to land a date.

If you enjoy raw talk about communication skills, in-person dating, boundaries, and the reality of modern relationships, subscribe, share the show with a friend, and leave a review. What do you think dating needs more of right now: better apps or better people skills?

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00:00 - Backyard Studio Intro And Holiday Cheers

01:15 - How A Dating Talk Starts

05:38 - Why Swiping Feels Dehumanizing

11:37 - Rejection Stories And Prom Fallout

19:50 - Shyness, Confidence, And Taking Risks

26:43 - Phone Calls, Texting, And Voicemail

33:12 - Dating Boundaries And Mixed Signals

40:20 - Real-Life Community At Cartwrights

50:28 - Pool Dates And Low-Pressure Flirting

59:59 - The Power Dynamic Argument

01:28:59 - Where To Meet People Offline

01:35:07 - Closing Thanks And Share The Pod

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From our humble backyard studio, this is the Almost Famous Radio Podcast with your host, Jeffy McJefferson.

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Let's go!

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And welcome to the Almost Famous Radio Podcast, Jeffy McJefferson here.

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The newly minted Unfiltered Conversational List.

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I told Ricker I was gonna- That's my new that's my new nickname.

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Krista.

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Yeah.

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We got Krista here.

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Woohoo!

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By the way.

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And we got the Ricker.

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Yeah, that's a that you both are on with the unfiltered conversation list.

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That's nonsense.

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It's not you.

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It's not new.

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We gotta go around the table.

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So do it.

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Love interrupting Ricker when he's trying to jack with me.

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Oh yeah.

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Krista, what you got?

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In terms of what we're drinking?

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Hell yeah.

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Yeah, we're all cheersing with celebration on the count of the holidays.

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Ricker, celebration, go.

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Let's cheers.

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Cheers, cheers.

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We're cheersing on the celebration by Sierra Nevada.

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Sierra Nevada.

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So we were sitting around earlier today at Cartwrights, and we didn't even really know we were going to do a show.

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And we thought we thought about doing a show, but we were like, okay, I didn't I didn't have a topic.

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And then, well, it's just me and Rick are actually.

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Yeah.

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And then Krista came along and we started talking about dating.

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Ooh.

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Wasn't it?

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Isn't that what we talked about?

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Yes.

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Yeah.

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So enlighten us what we talked about, Krista.

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I'm gonna leave the floor to you right now.

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Go.

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Well, I think the way that it started, and correct me if I'm wrong, is I you were checking in on my recent dates.

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So I kind of filled you in a little bit.

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Yeah, I invited myself into a billiards game, took myself out on a date with this guy unsuspecting man.

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Yeah.

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And then I told you about another possibility that's actually not kind of not happening.

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Not gonna come to fruition.

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I won't say more about that on here.

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It's too close.

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But yeah, we just not you, the guy's stupid ass.

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I wouldn't call okay.

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Clarify, I wasn't calling Krista a stupid ass.

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I was calling this idiot a stupid ass.

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But go ahead.

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Thank you.

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If I believed that you were, I would have put you right in your place.

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Yeah, I think there would have been a little bit I didn't perceive it that way.

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But yeah, so then we just started talking about, you know, the nature of dating and human interactions nowadays anymore.

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Yeah.

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And one of the big themes was the degree of connection that people have through their phones versus in person.

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And degree of difficulty.

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Yeah.

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Right.

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And then sort of kind of unfolded from.

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It's kind of like the Olympics where they have degree of difficulty on ice skating and shit.

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I just see that in the So we started talking about I mean Because you're newly single.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I mean, let's face it.

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Okay.

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Yes.

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And Ricker and I have been married.

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Yes.

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Long time.

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So we We've been married long time.

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We we started by talking about the you know the trouble with young people.

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Right.

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Younger anyway.

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Which you're younger than you.

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I'm not I'm not young by any means, but I am young younger than you are.

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Yeah, you are.

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Well but then kind of noticing.

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More one said high there, but go ahead.

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Kind of just noticing like the theme that there's kind of like cascades across demographics, like from teenagers to, you know, 60, 70 year olds.

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Very true.

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And then just we you gotta go online.

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You gotta get on an app only way versus the old-fashioned way.

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That's kind of what we're we went with.

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Well, not went with, but we we would start at going to hear about this stuff, you know, with her.

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She's kind of old school.

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I hate to say old because she kind of looks at me every time when I say old because she's not old.

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She's really young and she's very attractive.

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And so I'll I'll embrace old school.

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That's okay.

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And I call her an old.

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I call her an old soul because she's kind of is.

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And old soul was meant to be a compliment.

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Right.

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It is a compliment.

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Yeah.

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Because it's all about you're you're doing it.

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Your soul.

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Well, you're doing it like I I think, you know, as God intended.

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Yeah, you're basically meeting face to face.

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You see somebody, they're attractive, you talk to them face to face.

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There's no, you know, swipe left, swipe, swipe.

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Swipe light left and right.

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Yeah, I sorry.

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No.

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I'm I'm getting tongue-tied because it swiping left and right is not in my vocabulary.

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It's not in your freaking jacket.

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Yeah, it doesn't work for me.

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When when you were in line, Jeff, uh Ricker and I were talking about that a little more.

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Like the whole idea of swiping feels a lot like online shopping and like depersonalizing people, like dehumanizing.

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Like now you're looking for a product rather than you know, meeting a person as a human being the old-fashioned way.

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Very understanding, and that's now we're shopping for people.

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Very good point.

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It literally is.

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That that's what it it feels like to me is that that's what you're doing is you you're just looking at surface.

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That's it.

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That's you know, does it say made in USA?

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Is it, you know, does it have a description or is it just a face?

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Yeah, or do you want the red one, the green one, the yellow one?

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Yeah.

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Yeah, because I mean, if you know, to me with the swipe left, swipe right, I don't even know because I don't even know, I don't use them.

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But you know it's it's I don't want to say degrading.

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It is, though.

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But I think it yes, that's the thing.

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I think it's degrading on both ends.

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Yeah.

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The person who's doing it is degrading themselves, and the person who puts themselves out there as a photo is degrading themselves.

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I I think it's dehumanizing both ways.

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Yeah, because I'm a guy.

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And and then I I know the guy mentality.

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And say that you're you're on a dating app, but you're not.

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Right.

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And it's a it's gonna be a swipe left, swipe right.

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Basically, and most most dudes being a guy, Ricker, could probably vouch for this.

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Because it's like, are you gonna put out?

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You're gonna oh, I just I mean, start with you're gonna make a visual assessment right away.

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Yeah.

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I mean straight away.

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Yeah, and then you're gonna go to that next question.

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Are you gonna put out how available are you?

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If you look like you do, you know, and these guys are gonna go like, well, hey, let's get together and let me show you what I'm working with in a disgusting way.

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Right.

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Yeah, gross.

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I would never subject myself to it.

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But it's part of the reason I would never subject myself to it.

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That's kind of what seems like it's going on now.

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It is.

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It is.

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It definitely does.

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It seems like it's it's a meat market.

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That's what it is, man.

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You're just looking for somebody to hook up with it.

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Well, meat markets back in the day.

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Well, I were bars that you go and women went to.

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And no, I'm just clarifying this.

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Right.

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But I mean that it was.

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It was like, hey, you go to a bar and then it was like it's it's you're just looking to yeah, you're gonna score or not.

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Yeah.

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That's it.

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But I mean when you're scrolling through pictures, you know, basically you're it's a meat market.

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You're just looking for whoever's attractive to you and hoping like hell that they respond to you.

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I I I that's the only thing I can think of.

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But I, you know, again, I have no idea because that just seems to be the way it's gone.

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My my example is.

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I don't have any personal experience with it, so I don't know.

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There's been kind of like an evolution in the app landscape.

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So there used to be apps that were known for hookups.

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So if you go on that app, that's what you the expectation is for both parties.

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Grinder, Tinder used to be that way.

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I don't know very many others because I don't already use them.

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Yeah, I'm old older than really most people that are using them.

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But it but it used to be like that bar that you know you're going to looking for a hookup, and it's very likely.

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Right.

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And then they started kind of decommingle people looking for relationships on Tinder or hoping for them and wonder what the I wonder what the ratio is, like from looking to looking to get a piece of ass to looking for a relationship is on these apps.

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I wonder what that is.

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I don't know.

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I haven't looked that up.

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I don't know.

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We don't know.

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I I I have no clue.

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But what would you guess?

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Either of you, what you gotta guess?

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I think it depends very directly on the app.

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I say 70% looking for a piece of ass to 30% relationship.

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That's why I say it depends on the app.

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Because there are some apps that are targeted explicitly towards older people who might really be looking for a relationship or at least companionship.

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But things like Tinder and Grinder, those are for younger people to hook up.

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Yeah.

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That's what I was talking about.

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I don't think there is.

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I don't think there's a good percentage of guys that go on there to look for a relationship on Tinder.

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And I don't know.

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And you know, if anybody could tell me, let me know.

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I sure the fuck don't know.

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Because I'm not on them.

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You're not on them, Ricker's not on them.

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Well, I my question is nowadays, because you know, young males don't really want to talk to females.

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They just want to look.

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I wonder if they are looking for relationships, you know, the young, young ones, and they just don't know how to other than through their phone.

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That's it.

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That's all they know.

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Yeah, but I mean they don't want to d they want the finding a relationship or finding a woman that they could be with without the hassle of being freaking dumped on.

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You know what I mean?

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Because we all got freaking, you know, at some point you get shot down and it freaking sucks.

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I asked a boy to Sadie Hawkins.

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I had just moved to a new school my junior year, and there was a real cute boy.

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And I thought I would stick my neck out and ask him to go to Sadie Hawkins with me.

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Because that's the way it works.

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Right.

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Sadie Hawkins.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I thought I was pretty cute at the time, and but he nonetheless he said no.

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But then he asked me out to our senior prom.

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And you said fuck you.

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No, I went with him.

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Whoa, whoa, whoa.

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Because he got to know me across time.

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I wasn't a stranger anymore.

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We got to we were in classes together.

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He got to know me like and and you know.

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But we had the benefit of like in-person interviews.

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Was it me or should you have not have given him the time of day after he flat said no.

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Well But I know you liked the guy.

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You're like, he was cute and uh.

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Well we ended up like buddies.

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And he was like totally just said eh.

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I don't know.

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I thought there was like some kind of a nice karmic circle that happened there.

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You know, I'm I'm I'm with you.

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I I think that, you know, w when when you're young, as a as a male, when you're young, you tend to make really stupid decisions.

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And you grow out of making stupid decisions to only making less stupid decisions.

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Yeah, because I can't tell you how many times we said, oh, let's go get a 12-pack of beer and let's go see if we can find a woman.

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Yeah.

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And 99.9% of the time, we just drink a 12-pack of beer.

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That's it.

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Nope.

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Literally.

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And that was it.

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Yeah, that's it.

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Yeah.

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And that's well, hey, you know, that's uh kudos to you for at least seeing past seeing the dumbassy.

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The rejection.

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Yeah.

00:13:34.799 --> 00:13:38.080
Well, I mean, why do you think I'm inviting myself onto my own dates?

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I'm still doing the same thing.

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Yeah, well, I guess you are.

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I'm not getting a real far, but how'd it go at prom?

00:13:44.399 --> 00:13:44.960
At prom?

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Well to spoil that lovely story.

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Wow.

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Our friends ended up like trading prom partners.

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And Good Lord.

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So they they like hooked up with each other.

00:14:00.559 --> 00:14:02.240
But I was well, whatever.

00:14:02.960 --> 00:14:06.960
Your guy went with I wasn't in a relationship with him or something.

00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:08.960
No, I mean your guy you went to the prom with.

00:14:09.120 --> 00:14:09.679
Yeah.

00:14:10.000 --> 00:14:14.399
Said on prom night hooked up with somebody else.

00:14:14.639 --> 00:14:15.279
Yes.

00:14:16.000 --> 00:14:16.320
Okay.

00:14:16.559 --> 00:14:20.320
Well, he ended up being a a scumbag to begin with.

00:14:20.559 --> 00:14:23.039
I think the first, you know, the first notion of it.

00:14:23.519 --> 00:14:24.080
But I don't really believe that's a good idea.

00:14:24.320 --> 00:14:26.799
But you traded with another guy?

00:14:27.200 --> 00:14:33.919
So my other best friend, Sam, had it had a date, and those two hit it off.

00:14:34.080 --> 00:14:36.000
My date and my friend Sam.

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Sam a boy, Sam a girl.

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A boy.

00:14:38.960 --> 00:14:39.279
Okay.

00:14:39.519 --> 00:14:40.159
Yeah.

00:14:40.399 --> 00:14:44.720
And they hit it off, and we were just sort of like, okay, well, we're at prom.

00:14:44.879 --> 00:14:45.600
Who gives a shit?

00:14:45.759 --> 00:14:46.000
You know?

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We're still gonna have a good time, you know.

00:14:48.559 --> 00:14:49.279
Who cares?

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We're not in relationships with these people.

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Like it was not that deep.

00:14:54.799 --> 00:14:56.720
So I didn't feel really offended.

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I wasn't in a relationship with this guy.

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No, but no, but it's still, you know, the timing part of it is kind of sucky.

00:15:04.559 --> 00:15:07.600
You're at prom and you ask him for the else.

00:15:08.399 --> 00:15:08.960
Oh, I don't know.

00:15:09.039 --> 00:15:10.720
I just didn't take it personally.

00:15:11.039 --> 00:15:11.360
Okay.

00:15:12.639 --> 00:15:15.279
Maybe at some point you need to start taking it personally.

00:15:17.759 --> 00:15:22.799
Well, I was surrounded by friends that like I was ha already having fun.

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Like I wasn't banking my whole prom night on On him?

00:15:26.240 --> 00:15:26.639
Yeah.

00:15:26.960 --> 00:15:27.279
Okay.

00:15:28.159 --> 00:15:28.480
Okay.

00:15:30.080 --> 00:15:32.000
So it was no skin off my back.

00:15:32.799 --> 00:15:33.120
That's fine.

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Go forth and prosper, you know?

00:15:35.360 --> 00:15:36.080
That's fine.

00:15:36.399 --> 00:15:42.720
Just seems kind of Well, yeah, it's a little atypical or irritating.

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Maybe even rude.

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I don't know.

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I'd say rude would be probably a good thing and your friends should have set this asshole up.

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It's a hey, you know.

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Yeah, I yeah, it kind of seems like you should have freaking, you know, at some point got me with them.

00:15:57.039 --> 00:16:01.840
I mean, I've seen enough, I've seen enough rom coms, that's what's supposed to happen.

00:16:02.799 --> 00:16:04.000
He wasn't an asshole.

00:16:04.159 --> 00:16:06.480
You know, he just had a crush on another girl.

00:16:06.639 --> 00:16:09.360
And but why did he say yes to you?

00:16:09.759 --> 00:16:10.399
No, no, he yes.

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That's why I'm saying why did he ask you if he was, you know, pining for somebody else?

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That that's my that's my thing.

00:16:21.440 --> 00:16:26.960
Why why dick you around when question when you know he was really after your friend.

00:16:27.279 --> 00:16:30.320
I don't I mean, I don't think he dicked me around because we were friends.

00:16:30.480 --> 00:16:41.120
We had on on Mondays, we had a bad movie Mondays where we would choose like movies with one star rating and we would hang out like we were buddies.

00:16:41.360 --> 00:16:41.679
Okay.

00:16:41.919 --> 00:16:45.120
So it was kind of like, you know, sometimes friends go to prom together.

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And it's not romantic.

00:16:47.759 --> 00:16:48.720
And it wasn't?

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No.

00:16:49.919 --> 00:16:50.240
Okay.

00:16:50.639 --> 00:16:53.360
Well, if it wasn't romantic, then I guess, you know.

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Yeah.

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I guess that's all good.

00:16:54.799 --> 00:17:00.559
And I wasn't hoping for it to be like Still Man, I was if I was you would have got one of my friends to say, hey, let's fuck with this guy.

00:17:01.120 --> 00:17:03.360
Well, I would have gotten the way of that because I wouldn't have to be a good one.

00:17:03.519 --> 00:17:03.919
Not fucking.

00:17:05.200 --> 00:17:07.519
Let's just just assume.

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Just a little bit, you know.

00:17:10.960 --> 00:17:12.720
Not not not scarring something.

00:17:13.200 --> 00:17:14.559
My friend was more upset than I was.

00:17:14.640 --> 00:17:17.839
He was crying in the hallway of the hotel that we were staying at.

00:17:17.920 --> 00:17:20.559
So the one who was with the girl that he was with?

00:17:20.960 --> 00:17:21.119
Okay.

00:17:21.599 --> 00:17:21.839
Yeah.

00:17:22.079 --> 00:17:22.319
Yeah.

00:17:22.559 --> 00:17:23.920
So that gets too much.

00:17:24.000 --> 00:17:26.640
Well, you should at least you got to console him, you know.

00:17:27.279 --> 00:17:29.440
Yeah, it made me available emotionally.

00:17:29.680 --> 00:17:31.279
That's probably why I'm a therapist now.

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Probably.

00:17:32.799 --> 00:17:33.359
Probably.

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That that was it.

00:17:34.400 --> 00:17:36.640
We found that we we found the inflection point.

00:17:37.119 --> 00:17:37.839
That's when it started.

00:17:38.000 --> 00:17:38.079
Yeah.

00:17:38.400 --> 00:17:41.359
So what happened to that guy that got all butthurt and so bad?

00:17:41.440 --> 00:17:42.799
Did he turn gay?

00:17:43.920 --> 00:17:46.720
No, he did become an Orthodox Jew.

00:17:46.880 --> 00:17:48.240
He moved to Israel.

00:17:48.720 --> 00:17:50.240
Oh, that's kind of cool.

00:17:50.400 --> 00:17:57.920
But Yeah, he went on his birthright and got married and had a six kids and Wow.

00:17:58.880 --> 00:17:59.200
Yes.

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So he's fine too.

00:18:01.279 --> 00:18:02.240
Obviously.

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I thought he was gonna be a gay guy.

00:18:06.960 --> 00:18:07.519
Nope.

00:18:07.839 --> 00:18:09.200
Good luck, Jeffy.

00:18:10.640 --> 00:18:12.079
He went to his homeland.

00:18:12.720 --> 00:18:13.680
When his homeland?

00:18:14.000 --> 00:18:14.720
From once he came.

00:18:15.039 --> 00:18:15.440
Yes.

00:18:15.839 --> 00:18:16.799
Yes it is.

00:18:17.279 --> 00:18:19.039
You're a Jew, Israel is your homeland.

00:18:19.359 --> 00:18:21.680
Well, I mean, I'm saying he was from here.

00:18:23.039 --> 00:18:23.359
Okay.

00:18:23.759 --> 00:18:24.720
Well anyway.

00:18:25.279 --> 00:18:25.599
Yeah.

00:18:25.759 --> 00:18:26.000
Huh?

00:18:26.319 --> 00:18:26.880
But it's not a good thing.

00:18:27.039 --> 00:18:29.279
That's that's debatable depending on what's going on.

00:18:29.440 --> 00:18:32.240
So how was your dating life and shit like that?

00:18:32.319 --> 00:18:34.559
You didn't have to go through that kind of crap, did you, Ricker?

00:18:35.359 --> 00:18:38.559
I didn't really have one, so it was pretty easy.

00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:41.119
Oh, so you did you not ask girls out?

00:18:41.440 --> 00:18:43.039
I was Is that what you're saying?

00:18:43.599 --> 00:18:45.119
Painfully shy.

00:18:45.440 --> 00:18:46.240
Painfully.

00:18:46.559 --> 00:18:47.359
Same here.

00:18:47.839 --> 00:18:49.039
Believe it or not.

00:18:49.519 --> 00:18:50.160
Oh, I know.

00:18:50.240 --> 00:18:52.480
I heard about the regular girls that you were interested in.

00:18:52.799 --> 00:18:53.200
Regular.

00:18:53.519 --> 00:18:54.319
Regular.

00:18:54.640 --> 00:18:55.119
Regular.

00:18:55.359 --> 00:18:55.759
Regular.

00:18:56.000 --> 00:18:56.160
Yeah.

00:18:56.640 --> 00:18:57.920
No, I'm saying that you know.

00:18:58.160 --> 00:19:00.319
Yeah, I was painfully shy.

00:19:01.119 --> 00:19:06.000
Still am, but you know, I've kind of gotten somewhat over it.

00:19:06.319 --> 00:19:10.880
So did any girls ever ask you guys out or like hit on you or flirt with you?

00:19:11.759 --> 00:19:12.079
No.

00:19:12.400 --> 00:19:12.880
Yeah.

00:19:13.200 --> 00:19:13.920
A few.

00:19:16.079 --> 00:19:16.640
A few.

00:19:16.880 --> 00:19:20.160
But it's like it never amounted to anything, obviously.

00:19:20.640 --> 00:19:21.279
Why?

00:19:21.839 --> 00:19:23.519
Because I wasn't I'm an idiot.

00:19:23.759 --> 00:19:26.720
And so it's true.

00:19:27.680 --> 00:19:31.039
No, not not is an idiot wasn't.

00:19:31.279 --> 00:19:34.240
Well, the well the the is part is debatable.

00:19:34.799 --> 00:19:36.720
I was for sure.

00:19:36.960 --> 00:19:37.599
I was an idiot.

00:19:37.839 --> 00:19:39.440
For sure back then, yeah.

00:19:39.759 --> 00:19:41.519
Yeah, like he said, painfully shy, man.

00:19:41.599 --> 00:19:46.240
When you're a painfully shy guy, girls like go, yeah, like this guy.

00:19:46.319 --> 00:19:47.599
He has no confidence in society.

00:19:47.920 --> 00:19:48.319
Yeah, right.

00:19:48.400 --> 00:19:57.839
But do you know there are other painfully shy girls that are looking at the painfully shy boys, and you guys are just like, it's a cold war, you're at a standstill.

00:19:58.160 --> 00:19:59.200
Well, they didn't come to me.

00:20:00.319 --> 00:20:12.880
That that's your you're you're freaking dropping your your your hat as a therapist on us, and it's way, way too late for that.

00:20:13.119 --> 00:20:14.799
I mean, I have no idea.

00:20:15.279 --> 00:20:31.119
You would have if you would have had if you would have had that back then, maybe it might have done something, but probably as being a painfully shy kid, I I don't think it would have mattered one bit.

00:20:31.519 --> 00:20:35.680
I wish honestly that I was like I am now back then.

00:20:36.000 --> 00:20:37.680
I I do too, but it you can't.

00:20:37.920 --> 00:20:39.920
You know, but if you don't I know you can't.

00:20:40.240 --> 00:20:43.599
But it it's life experience that puts you where you are.

00:20:44.000 --> 00:20:45.839
Where's Doc Brown and fucking Michael J.

00:20:46.000 --> 00:20:50.480
Fox with that god dang back to the future machine with that DeLorean?

00:20:50.640 --> 00:20:50.880
Yeah.

00:20:51.119 --> 00:20:53.279
I'd like to go back and just like go, hey, you know what?

00:20:53.359 --> 00:20:55.119
You're a fucking pussy.

00:20:55.359 --> 00:20:55.920
That's it.

00:20:56.240 --> 00:20:59.839
Well, no, I would that's that's not a kind way to talk to your past self.

00:21:00.480 --> 00:21:02.079
Well, but but it's a true way.

00:21:02.319 --> 00:21:03.440
But here but here's the thing.

00:21:04.000 --> 00:21:05.839
This is where I think that it's not kind.

00:21:06.160 --> 00:21:10.319
It's really cool that you know, you can use those kinds of insights.

00:21:10.400 --> 00:21:13.039
And this is like why I told you in the last podcast.

00:21:13.200 --> 00:21:18.880
I like to hang out with older people because they have a lot of insights and and reflect about their life.

00:21:19.200 --> 00:21:26.559
You can just impart that kind of wisdom on you know, the next generation.

00:21:26.880 --> 00:21:29.279
These kids that are hiding away in their phone.

00:21:29.839 --> 00:21:34.640
You might feel like you're shy, and that's the only way that you can talk to a girl is on Instagram.

00:21:35.359 --> 00:21:36.640
But just try it.

00:21:36.720 --> 00:21:39.359
Just like push yourself a little bit, see what happens.

00:21:39.599 --> 00:21:40.960
Okay, we were painfully shy.

00:21:41.039 --> 00:21:42.880
I know I was, but I still tried.

00:21:43.279 --> 00:21:44.319
I was too.

00:21:44.880 --> 00:21:45.839
I tried.

00:21:46.559 --> 00:21:49.200
And I had I had girlfriends and stuff like that.

00:21:49.279 --> 00:21:50.480
Uh, don't get me wrong.

00:21:50.640 --> 00:21:56.559
I didn't stay at home and and freaking Oh, what was that?

00:21:56.720 --> 00:21:57.359
Well, that was me.

00:21:57.680 --> 00:21:59.359
That was an act that was.

00:22:01.440 --> 00:22:02.799
It wasn't an accident.

00:22:03.039 --> 00:22:03.759
Oh God.

00:22:04.240 --> 00:22:05.119
It was an incident.

00:22:05.519 --> 00:22:06.079
Sorry.

00:22:06.559 --> 00:22:07.119
Yeah.

00:22:07.519 --> 00:22:08.240
So it happens.

00:22:08.880 --> 00:22:09.039
Yeah.

00:22:09.200 --> 00:22:14.400
I didn't sit home and getting, you know, my you know, right arm and looking like Popeye.

00:22:14.720 --> 00:22:15.119
Right.

00:22:15.279 --> 00:22:16.640
But yeah, working out.

00:22:16.880 --> 00:22:18.160
Yeah, the workout.

00:22:18.400 --> 00:22:21.200
But you know, I tried and stuff like that.

00:22:21.359 --> 00:22:28.079
It's just that I always was I guess I was sort of afraid to fail.

00:22:28.240 --> 00:22:28.799
Is that easy?

00:22:28.880 --> 00:22:29.759
Is that a yeah?

00:22:30.480 --> 00:22:30.880
That's it.

00:22:31.279 --> 00:22:37.039
You're scared to put yourself out there because you know, you know, 80% of the time you're gonna get shot.

00:22:37.599 --> 00:22:38.240
Yeah.

00:22:38.799 --> 00:22:42.960
That's part why didn't that's probably what I didn't they you know try for cheerleaders.

00:22:43.039 --> 00:22:43.599
That's what you're saying.

00:22:43.759 --> 00:22:45.279
I didn't try for cheerleaders.

00:22:46.240 --> 00:22:48.079
That's the same reason Ricker didn't.

00:22:48.400 --> 00:22:54.880
Well, hell, you know, it's like we were talking about Ricker and I, it's it's a lottery.

00:22:55.039 --> 00:22:59.039
You know, if you if you play the lottery and you win, you're like, hell yeah.

00:22:59.200 --> 00:23:02.720
But how many times do you lose playing the lottery?

00:23:02.960 --> 00:23:10.160
And that's why I didn't want to try for cheerleaders because you're more of a bird in the hand guy.

00:23:10.799 --> 00:23:12.160
Well, other things.

00:23:13.119 --> 00:23:13.759
Yeah, right.

00:23:13.839 --> 00:23:15.200
The aforementioned workouts.

00:23:15.759 --> 00:23:16.079
Right.

00:23:18.559 --> 00:23:20.720
I didn't call it a bird, but anyway.

00:23:21.680 --> 00:23:26.559
Yeah, and so I didn't, I didn't you didn't put yourself off.

00:23:27.039 --> 00:23:28.720
I didn't try for cheerleaders and shit like that.

00:23:28.799 --> 00:23:31.519
That's why that's why like like we said last podcast, I was ringing.

00:23:31.839 --> 00:23:35.359
Well, you were you're talking about trying to date cheerleaders?

00:23:35.519 --> 00:23:35.839
Yeah.

00:23:36.079 --> 00:23:39.920
Oh, for a second there, I thought you were talking about trying out for being a cheerleader.

00:23:40.319 --> 00:23:42.799
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

00:23:43.359 --> 00:23:45.039
Jeffy is a cheerleader.

00:23:45.119 --> 00:23:47.039
That scares the hell out of me.

00:23:47.359 --> 00:23:49.039
I don't fit into those skirts.

00:23:49.359 --> 00:23:50.000
Yeah.

00:23:51.119 --> 00:23:52.559
Although he does have legs full.

00:23:53.680 --> 00:23:54.000
Look at it.

00:23:54.240 --> 00:23:55.119
I misunderstood.

00:23:55.519 --> 00:23:56.880
Very I misunderstood.

00:23:57.359 --> 00:23:58.400
Try out for cheerleaders.

00:23:58.799 --> 00:23:59.279
Big time.

00:23:59.440 --> 00:23:59.680
Yeah.

00:23:59.920 --> 00:24:01.279
That that was a misunderstanding.

00:24:01.519 --> 00:24:02.000
I didn't try.

00:24:02.240 --> 00:24:05.119
I thought where are the cheerleaders?

00:24:05.359 --> 00:24:05.680
Yeah.

00:24:05.920 --> 00:24:06.240
No.

00:24:06.319 --> 00:24:06.559
Yeah.

00:24:06.799 --> 00:24:09.839
After going after going after the cheerleader.

00:24:10.000 --> 00:24:15.279
Here's the thing is that you said in the previous podcast that that was not necessarily your type.

00:24:15.920 --> 00:24:21.359
Because I didn't So I didn't imagine you trying to approach a cheerleader.

00:24:21.440 --> 00:24:21.920
If that's the thing.

00:24:22.079 --> 00:24:24.720
Well, that's why they won my type, because I figured no way.

00:24:24.960 --> 00:24:25.680
That's why.

00:24:25.920 --> 00:24:26.240
Yeah.

00:24:26.480 --> 00:24:27.680
Yeah, there's no way.

00:24:27.839 --> 00:24:28.720
I mean.

00:24:30.000 --> 00:24:33.599
Yeah, cheerleaders go after quarterbacks.

00:24:34.000 --> 00:24:34.880
Sorted dudes.

00:24:34.960 --> 00:24:42.079
Sort, you know, different guys, you know, regular, you know, not regular guys, but guys that are man, am I stereo?

00:24:43.920 --> 00:24:44.799
Top tier guys.

00:24:45.119 --> 00:25:00.079
Here's the thing, it's like in high school you don't appreciate that in adulthood, you're gonna look back at the quarterbacks and the cheerleaders, and really they're normal people.

00:25:00.160 --> 00:25:06.720
They're not everything that they were exalted to be as cheerleaders and jocks.

00:25:07.119 --> 00:25:08.079
Well, we didn't, you know.

00:25:08.720 --> 00:25:10.559
It seemed so exalted at the time.

00:25:10.640 --> 00:25:13.680
The the How many quarterbacks did you try for?

00:25:14.000 --> 00:25:16.400
None, because I was into regular guys.

00:25:16.720 --> 00:25:17.599
Thank you.

00:25:18.960 --> 00:25:19.599
Right.

00:25:22.079 --> 00:25:23.200
That's exactly right.

00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:29.279
But like once you get out of high school, that none of that status matters anymore.

00:25:29.680 --> 00:25:33.839
It doesn't, but you uh when you're in high school, that's all that matters.

00:25:34.079 --> 00:25:35.279
Not to me to you.

00:25:35.759 --> 00:25:37.200
No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

00:25:37.279 --> 00:25:43.200
I look you're kind of missing the point of it.

00:25:43.519 --> 00:25:54.720
It's not so much that there because there's not a lot of difference here, you know, just because of the age, it's still the same social circles that happen in high school.

00:25:54.880 --> 00:26:00.720
I I don't care how, you know, it could have been 1810 or 2010.

00:26:00.880 --> 00:26:06.880
It doesn't matter because there's still a hierarchy of you know, kids.

00:26:07.279 --> 00:26:10.240
If you subscribe to it, I didn't subscribe to that.

00:26:10.720 --> 00:26:17.680
Okay, I get that, but for the most part I know that that's still a thing.

00:26:18.000 --> 00:26:19.039
Pervasive, yes.

00:26:19.279 --> 00:26:19.599
Okay.

00:26:19.920 --> 00:26:20.240
Yeah.

00:26:20.640 --> 00:26:24.720
And kids still have to deal with that.

00:26:24.799 --> 00:26:36.160
And and my thing is I think that they they deal with it by, you know, the ones who are not outgoing and and you know, self-confident.

00:26:36.559 --> 00:26:38.799
They f that they want to use the phone.

00:26:38.880 --> 00:26:43.119
That's what they want to do Yeah, they'll they'll go like, okay, uh That's that's how they operate.

00:26:43.279 --> 00:26:44.000
It's way easier.

00:26:44.079 --> 00:26:52.559
There's text and you know, and they do that kind of, you know, hey, let's give me your phone number back then didn't mean give you your phone number now.

00:26:52.880 --> 00:26:53.200
No.

00:26:53.599 --> 00:26:55.039
You had to actually pick up the fucking phone.

00:26:56.000 --> 00:27:01.519
The the 16-foot cord that you had to take outside because you didn't want anybody at the house.

00:27:02.160 --> 00:27:04.160
What if your mom or your dad answered the phone?

00:27:04.319 --> 00:27:06.480
Yeah, that's Hey, is Ricker there?

00:27:06.720 --> 00:27:06.960
Yeah.

00:27:07.359 --> 00:27:08.079
I talked to Ricker.

00:27:08.160 --> 00:27:09.359
Can Ricker come out and play?

00:27:09.680 --> 00:27:11.680
There was no Ricker back then, but okay.

00:27:11.759 --> 00:27:18.559
That's his Did you have your own phone in high school?

00:27:18.880 --> 00:27:19.200
No.

00:27:19.680 --> 00:27:21.599
We uh luckily we you know what?

00:27:21.680 --> 00:27:25.519
I think my parents gave us our own phone so they could take it away from us.

00:27:25.839 --> 00:27:29.920
Oh that's a that's an advanced maneuver.

00:27:30.079 --> 00:27:30.799
Yeah, yeah.

00:27:31.039 --> 00:27:33.839
I mean that would throw it out there to pull it back.

00:27:34.000 --> 00:27:34.640
Yeah.

00:27:34.960 --> 00:27:35.440
Yeah.

00:27:35.759 --> 00:27:41.920
And we had a phone, and then and all you had to do is just pull the cord and goodbye phone.

00:27:42.000 --> 00:27:42.319
Yeah.

00:27:42.480 --> 00:27:44.160
You can't do that now with cell phones.

00:27:44.319 --> 00:27:44.480
No.

00:27:44.720 --> 00:27:47.599
Well, you can take the cell phones, I guess, if you wanted.

00:27:47.839 --> 00:27:49.920
But they'll figure out another way.

00:27:50.240 --> 00:27:50.880
That's it.

00:27:51.119 --> 00:27:57.519
They'll use their friend's cell phone to freaking call somebody or never call, excuse me.

00:27:57.839 --> 00:27:58.480
Text somebody.

00:27:58.880 --> 00:27:59.519
Never call.

00:27:59.599 --> 00:28:00.319
That's another thing.

00:28:01.519 --> 00:28:02.960
There is no such thing as a freaking voice.

00:28:05.279 --> 00:28:09.119
People tell me all the time they don't listen to voicemails.

00:28:09.279 --> 00:28:11.519
Don't waste your time on a voicemail.

00:28:12.240 --> 00:28:14.640
And remember when voicemails were okay?

00:28:14.880 --> 00:28:15.119
Yeah.

00:28:16.000 --> 00:28:20.480
When they were important, it's like, okay, I'm gonna tell you what I need from you.

00:28:20.559 --> 00:28:22.559
This is why I'm leaving this message.

00:28:22.799 --> 00:28:26.559
And now it's I appreciate them because then I know why this person called me.

00:28:27.279 --> 00:28:32.400
Yeah, even if I just read the text, uh the voice to text thing.

00:28:32.640 --> 00:28:33.119
Right.

00:28:33.599 --> 00:28:37.039
Then I know I know why they called me in the urgency of getting back to them.

00:28:37.359 --> 00:28:37.759
That's it.

00:28:37.839 --> 00:28:38.720
It's the urgency.

00:28:38.880 --> 00:28:42.079
You can you can prioritize one, two, three, four.

00:28:42.160 --> 00:28:48.880
This is important, this sucks, this is garbage, you know, from the voicemail.

00:28:49.200 --> 00:28:53.680
And, you know, kids don't again, they don't do it.

00:28:53.759 --> 00:28:54.640
It's all tax.

00:28:55.039 --> 00:28:55.359
Yeah.

00:28:55.519 --> 00:28:59.119
It's all freaking play on the phone.

00:28:59.519 --> 00:29:03.519
Kind of have a they kind of have a point because voicemails do get irritating.

00:29:03.839 --> 00:29:04.480
They do.

00:29:04.720 --> 00:29:07.519
They do because there's, you know, there's always the run-on.

00:29:08.160 --> 00:29:09.200
I mean, not every voicemail.

00:29:09.279 --> 00:29:10.799
I'm not saying every voicemail, Krista.

00:29:11.039 --> 00:29:11.759
You're shaking your head.

00:29:12.160 --> 00:29:12.559
I know.

00:29:12.720 --> 00:29:14.480
I must be some kind of a mutant.

00:29:14.640 --> 00:29:16.079
I love a voicemail.

00:29:16.880 --> 00:29:17.599
And that's okay.

00:29:18.160 --> 00:29:21.279
That's that's fine, but they're we we get them.

00:29:21.839 --> 00:29:23.119
Uh go ahead.

00:29:23.279 --> 00:29:28.000
I think you should tell the shop story because if it's work-related, that's different.

00:29:28.240 --> 00:29:31.119
But that's 90% of the calls you get.

00:29:32.000 --> 00:29:33.200
I love a voicemail.

00:29:33.359 --> 00:29:42.720
I have voicemails on my phone from 2023 because I just can't let go of them because I love to hear my friends and family, like their nice messages.

00:29:42.799 --> 00:29:44.079
I hang on to that shit.

00:29:44.480 --> 00:29:45.359
Well, that's cool.

00:29:45.680 --> 00:29:49.359
I've got a few from people that are no longer with us.

00:29:49.759 --> 00:29:50.640
That's I keep them.

00:29:50.960 --> 00:29:51.200
Exactly.

00:29:51.519 --> 00:29:53.359
But that's about it.

00:29:53.759 --> 00:29:57.680
And can you imagine if they didn't leave that message, if they just hung up?

00:29:58.720 --> 00:29:59.200
Yeah.

00:29:59.440 --> 00:29:59.759
Yeah.

00:30:00.079 --> 00:30:02.480
That's why I think it's cool that people leave voicemails.

00:30:02.720 --> 00:30:03.039
Yeah.

00:30:03.359 --> 00:30:03.680
It is.

00:30:04.000 --> 00:30:04.960
I hang up.

00:30:06.000 --> 00:30:08.720
I I leave voicemail, but it's not very often.

00:30:09.039 --> 00:30:14.400
Because I know if if anyb if I call anybody, they see my number.

00:30:15.039 --> 00:30:16.480
It goes to voicemail.

00:30:16.960 --> 00:30:18.160
I'm like, fuck this.

00:30:18.400 --> 00:30:24.400
Okay, because I'll get an answer.

00:30:24.640 --> 00:30:25.279
Right.

00:30:25.759 --> 00:30:28.480
And I'm saying, what good's voicemail?

00:30:28.880 --> 00:30:42.640
Well, most of the time, again, like I said, you know, they see your number if they if if they see that you called, they'll just call back if it's, you know, if it's somebody you care about, and if if it isn't anybody you care about, fuck them.

00:30:43.920 --> 00:30:44.640
Literally.

00:30:44.880 --> 00:30:46.000
Who cares?

00:30:47.279 --> 00:30:48.880
What do you think about that?

00:30:49.759 --> 00:30:50.319
Fuck 'em?

00:30:50.720 --> 00:30:54.720
Well, I mean, I'm just saying as far as if it depends whose number it is.

00:30:55.119 --> 00:31:08.640
If you see if you see somebody's number come up, they call you, or they text you and or well, call you, and they were going to leave an email but or a voicemail, but they don't.

00:31:10.000 --> 00:31:14.720
If they don't leave a message, but it's somebody important to you, you'll call back, right?

00:31:16.559 --> 00:31:25.759
Especially if they send a follow-up text, hey, checking in about X, Y, or Z, or hey, do you have time to talk?

00:31:26.079 --> 00:31:26.640
Yeah.

00:31:26.960 --> 00:31:28.079
Then Yeah.

00:31:28.319 --> 00:31:29.279
I will call them back.

00:31:29.599 --> 00:31:34.400
But if they just leave no voicemail, I'm like, well, I'll try again a different day.

00:31:34.720 --> 00:31:42.799
Or do you go like But if they did leave a voicemail that gave me more context and information, I'd be more likely to call them back.

00:31:43.359 --> 00:31:47.440
So if the if the if the call goes to voicemail, do you do what I do?

00:31:48.000 --> 00:31:48.319
Me?

00:31:48.480 --> 00:31:48.559
No.

00:31:49.680 --> 00:31:51.200
No, no, no, no, no, hang on.

00:31:51.599 --> 00:32:04.160
If the if uh if I make a call and it goes to voicemail and I just text them after that and go, does it hurt you to pick up your fucking phone?

00:32:06.960 --> 00:32:08.960
Depends who you're sending it to.

00:32:09.200 --> 00:32:10.880
Does it hurt to pick up a fucking phone?

00:32:10.960 --> 00:32:12.559
Or it's not hard nowadays.

00:32:12.880 --> 00:32:15.200
It really depends who you're sending the side.

00:32:15.440 --> 00:32:19.920
Well, the other thing is, you know, you have a menu.

00:32:20.480 --> 00:32:28.720
If you see somebody calling you and you can't answer the phone, you can always hit Oh, that bullshit.

00:32:28.799 --> 00:32:29.119
I'm busy.

00:32:29.200 --> 00:32:29.839
Can I call you back?

00:32:30.559 --> 00:32:31.440
I'll call you right back.

00:32:31.680 --> 00:32:32.960
I'll call you right back.

00:32:33.119 --> 00:32:34.480
That's what I always do.

00:32:34.640 --> 00:32:40.079
I freaking hit that so it it sends a message and then do you call back to follow through?

00:32:40.160 --> 00:32:46.079
Okay, then I'll wife or my father, so it's pretty easy to call them.

00:32:47.200 --> 00:32:48.240
I didn't even know there was one.

00:32:48.480 --> 00:32:49.200
Me either, because it wasn't.

00:32:49.359 --> 00:32:50.480
Oh, I hit it all the time.

00:32:51.039 --> 00:32:52.480
It doesn't matter though.

00:32:52.559 --> 00:33:09.839
If if if somebody calls you and you don't want you can't answer because you're in the middle of a conversation, it's better to freaking send them a message and say, I'll call you right back just to be freaking, you know, just to let them know, hey, I'm in the middle of something.

00:33:10.079 --> 00:33:10.799
And they know.

00:33:12.960 --> 00:33:13.920
Getting back to the dating.

00:33:14.000 --> 00:33:20.000
I mean, especially like if you're if you're getting to side by getting well, no, if you know, it's still kind of like this.

00:33:20.319 --> 00:33:25.039
So Krista is in is in the dating world right now.

00:33:25.279 --> 00:33:29.119
I'm not saying she's looking, so don't fucking don't say that too loud.

00:33:29.519 --> 00:33:31.920
Chris is in the dating world right now.

00:33:32.160 --> 00:33:33.759
But it's exploratory.

00:33:33.920 --> 00:33:34.240
Yeah.

00:33:34.400 --> 00:33:36.079
So it's exploratory.

00:33:36.400 --> 00:33:38.640
But surgery.

00:33:38.799 --> 00:33:40.799
So it really is.

00:33:41.039 --> 00:33:48.000
If you get a if you get a okay, so say you're with Jerry and you get a call from Nick.

00:33:48.960 --> 00:33:49.279
Okay.

00:33:49.599 --> 00:33:52.720
Hey, do you text Nick, say, hey, I'm with Jerry right now.

00:33:52.880 --> 00:33:54.000
I'll call you back later.

00:33:54.319 --> 00:33:57.039
First of all, I can never imagine a scenario like that.

00:33:57.359 --> 00:33:58.480
I'm just asking.

00:33:58.720 --> 00:34:01.359
I'm just asking if that's that could happen.

00:34:01.599 --> 00:34:02.160
It could happen.

00:34:03.359 --> 00:34:05.039
What would you do if that happened?

00:34:06.720 --> 00:34:07.759
Fuck you, Nick.

00:34:07.920 --> 00:34:09.119
I'm with Jerry.

00:34:09.679 --> 00:34:10.960
No, I'm saying if you were with Jerry.

00:34:11.199 --> 00:34:12.639
Oh, I need more context.

00:34:13.039 --> 00:34:15.679
Saying if you were with Jerry right now on a date.

00:34:15.920 --> 00:34:16.400
On a date.

00:34:17.199 --> 00:34:18.159
Is it a first date?

00:34:18.480 --> 00:34:20.320
Could have been first, could have been third.

00:34:20.559 --> 00:34:20.960
Okay, me.

00:34:21.199 --> 00:34:22.960
So me and Jerry on a date.

00:34:23.199 --> 00:34:24.800
Well, if you want to call him Gary, that's fine too.

00:34:25.039 --> 00:34:25.599
Jerry, Gary.

00:34:25.840 --> 00:34:26.320
Gary, Jerry.

00:34:26.559 --> 00:34:26.800
Larry.

00:34:27.039 --> 00:34:27.360
Doesn't matter.

00:34:27.519 --> 00:34:27.840
Larry.

00:34:28.000 --> 00:34:28.079
Okay.

00:34:28.400 --> 00:34:28.880
Harry.

00:34:29.119 --> 00:34:29.679
All right.

00:34:30.000 --> 00:34:31.920
And then Nick calls me.

00:34:32.159 --> 00:34:32.800
Nick calls.

00:34:33.039 --> 00:34:33.440
Nick.

00:34:33.599 --> 00:34:34.000
Yeah.

00:34:34.239 --> 00:34:37.599
Nick says, hey, what's up, baby?

00:34:39.519 --> 00:34:40.159
Bebe?

00:34:40.559 --> 00:34:41.519
Did you say Bebe?

00:34:41.760 --> 00:34:42.480
What's up, Bebe?

00:34:42.719 --> 00:34:44.079
Hey, hey, what are you up to?

00:34:44.320 --> 00:34:45.840
What you up to, baby?

00:34:46.480 --> 00:34:48.639
Do you go as you as we were talking about?

00:34:48.960 --> 00:34:50.400
I'm out with Larry and Gary.

00:34:50.880 --> 00:34:53.199
Do you go as we were talking before?

00:34:53.519 --> 00:34:56.159
Do you do the new phone who dis?

00:34:56.639 --> 00:34:58.719
Oh, new yeah, new phone who dis.

00:34:59.519 --> 00:35:01.199
And Nick's fucked.

00:35:01.519 --> 00:35:02.239
Pretty much.

00:35:02.480 --> 00:35:11.360
Well, I mean, I would like to think that I would be a little bit more discerning about first of all, who like we're dumb.

00:35:11.840 --> 00:35:15.039
Mindful and intentional about who has my phone number.

00:35:15.199 --> 00:35:17.840
Like the odds are that I'm not going to have two dudes.

00:35:18.159 --> 00:35:19.199
Well, Nick does.

00:35:19.440 --> 00:35:22.079
And you're with Gary, Jerry, Larry, or Harry.

00:35:23.360 --> 00:35:24.000
One of 'em.

00:35:25.679 --> 00:35:27.840
New phone who's dis New Phone who dis.

00:35:28.400 --> 00:35:28.880
Right.

00:35:29.280 --> 00:35:29.519
Yeah.

00:35:29.679 --> 00:35:32.719
I'm not just gonna be going out there willy-nilly like that.

00:35:34.079 --> 00:35:38.239
So do you call Nick back and go, hey, lit Nick, sorry, man.

00:35:38.400 --> 00:35:44.800
I mean These other roads at one time.

00:35:45.679 --> 00:35:46.320
Later.

00:35:48.400 --> 00:35:49.760
Do you call the guy and say, hey.

00:35:49.920 --> 00:35:54.239
Well, let's see how things go with Larry, Gary, Gary, and Mo.

00:35:54.559 --> 00:35:56.320
And Larry and Mo and Curly, you know what it is.

00:35:56.639 --> 00:35:59.440
Yeah, if that doesn't work out, then I'll call Nick.

00:36:00.320 --> 00:36:03.360
Yeah, but Nick's like laying out in the weeds, man.

00:36:03.440 --> 00:36:05.119
He's like fucked, isn't he?

00:36:06.400 --> 00:36:07.199
He's what?

00:36:07.360 --> 00:36:10.320
He's fucked, because you and you were, you know, we were like, hey.

00:36:11.280 --> 00:36:17.440
Um you may be, but it's only later after I explore my other possibilities.

00:36:20.079 --> 00:36:23.840
Nick's sitting at home with a National Geographic and a bottle of Jergens.

00:36:24.320 --> 00:36:26.079
And you're out with guys.

00:36:28.239 --> 00:36:29.280
You you know what?

00:36:29.360 --> 00:36:31.519
You had me at National Geographics.

00:36:31.760 --> 00:36:33.920
And then when he went to Jurgens, uh no.

00:36:34.480 --> 00:36:35.119
That was the end of it.

00:36:35.199 --> 00:36:36.159
I'm over Nick.

00:36:36.320 --> 00:36:36.559
Yeah.

00:36:36.880 --> 00:36:36.960
Yeah.

00:36:37.119 --> 00:36:38.960
I don't know if you can be over Nick.

00:36:39.199 --> 00:36:41.519
Maybe you might be at a box of tissues.

00:36:42.480 --> 00:36:44.719
Maybe Nick's over you at this point.

00:36:44.880 --> 00:36:45.519
I don't know.

00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:49.519
This is kind of this is kind of scary at this point.

00:36:49.760 --> 00:36:57.760
Well, this is what happens when you get when you get Jeffy making these scenarios up in his own mind.

00:36:58.079 --> 00:37:07.039
See, you you need to freaking just realize that if Jeffy gets to pose the story, uh, you're you're out of control.

00:37:07.360 --> 00:37:10.400
No, well, Nick is at he he's at the back of the line.

00:37:10.480 --> 00:37:11.360
I don't know what to tell him.

00:37:11.599 --> 00:37:15.360
But he's not gonna tell you that he has a National Geographic in a bottle of jurgis.

00:37:15.519 --> 00:37:16.400
I should hope not.

00:37:16.559 --> 00:37:17.039
Yeah.

00:37:17.360 --> 00:37:19.039
Do they still make jergins?

00:37:19.280 --> 00:37:19.760
I don't know.

00:37:20.000 --> 00:37:20.639
Yeah, they do.

00:37:20.960 --> 00:37:21.280
Okay.

00:37:21.360 --> 00:37:23.760
I'm I'm just Well, how about Vaseline?

00:37:24.000 --> 00:37:24.320
Yeah.

00:37:24.559 --> 00:37:26.800
You know It's in the song.

00:37:26.960 --> 00:37:28.320
I don't they have to make it still.

00:37:28.639 --> 00:37:33.039
Yeah, so so if you know he's this poor guy that's in the home.

00:37:33.760 --> 00:37:35.440
Well, here's the thing.

00:37:35.760 --> 00:37:41.760
Jerry, Larry, Moe, and Gary and whom whomever else and Nick, they're not all created equal.

00:37:42.000 --> 00:37:42.320
No.

00:37:42.559 --> 00:37:46.000
So I would prioritize spending time with one of them.

00:37:46.239 --> 00:37:46.800
Right.

00:37:47.039 --> 00:37:51.119
I'm not invested in seven dudes.

00:37:51.280 --> 00:37:54.159
Like this is not like Snow White and the seven dudes.

00:37:54.880 --> 00:37:55.519
You know.

00:37:56.880 --> 00:37:58.719
Snow White and the Seven Dudes.

00:37:58.960 --> 00:37:59.920
There you go, Jeffy.

00:38:00.480 --> 00:38:01.199
We got your answer.

00:38:01.440 --> 00:38:03.119
I would hone in on one of them.

00:38:03.280 --> 00:38:03.599
Yeah.

00:38:03.920 --> 00:38:08.639
That I find is the most you know feasible.

00:38:09.519 --> 00:38:10.159
Possible.

00:38:13.360 --> 00:38:14.320
Desirable.

00:38:15.920 --> 00:38:18.159
Yeah, but poor Nyx left out in the cold.

00:38:18.800 --> 00:38:20.239
Well, that's a tough one.

00:38:20.400 --> 00:38:20.880
I don't know.

00:38:21.039 --> 00:38:22.320
Sometimes that's just a tough one.

00:38:22.559 --> 00:38:23.760
Well, you gotta you just gotta let him go.

00:38:24.079 --> 00:38:27.920
At least he's gonna jurgens and his shoes with aloe.

00:38:28.320 --> 00:38:28.880
Box of tissue.

00:38:29.039 --> 00:38:29.840
Yeah, with aloe.

00:38:30.320 --> 00:38:31.119
Naturally.

00:38:32.000 --> 00:38:34.880
Well that that sounds fine, right?

00:38:35.039 --> 00:38:40.400
Yeah, hopefully he didn't have a hopefully he didn't have a box of tissue laced with Vic's vapor rub.

00:38:40.480 --> 00:38:43.280
Oh boy, that would that would be painful.

00:38:43.679 --> 00:38:44.800
That's not good.

00:38:45.760 --> 00:38:51.360
But of course, you know, at that point he'd probably never have to worry about not breathing.

00:38:51.760 --> 00:38:53.519
But if he had a cold, he's okay.

00:38:54.480 --> 00:39:00.880
He's got enough vapor rub to keep keep keep his freaking vapor rub laced.

00:39:01.039 --> 00:39:01.599
Yeah.

00:39:01.840 --> 00:39:02.559
Kleenex.

00:39:02.880 --> 00:39:03.760
Oh no, no, no, no.

00:39:04.159 --> 00:39:06.719
He could he can, you know, he can get over that cold.

00:39:06.880 --> 00:39:07.119
Yeah.

00:39:07.280 --> 00:39:07.440
Yeah.

00:39:07.679 --> 00:39:08.239
He's good to go.

00:39:08.559 --> 00:39:10.480
Public service announcement for little kids.

00:39:10.559 --> 00:39:13.039
Don't use vapor rub to rub.

00:39:13.199 --> 00:39:14.079
No, no, no, no.

00:39:14.320 --> 00:39:16.159
Oh, no, absolutely not.

00:39:16.400 --> 00:39:21.599
This is well, this is not a child friendly freaking podcast ever.

00:39:22.159 --> 00:39:24.079
Just in case it ends up in the wrong hands.

00:39:24.239 --> 00:39:24.559
Yeah.

00:39:25.039 --> 00:39:25.280
Yeah.

00:39:26.000 --> 00:39:27.119
Wrong hands, all right.

00:39:27.440 --> 00:39:27.599
Yeah.

00:39:27.760 --> 00:39:28.800
If you're a kid and the same thing.

00:39:28.960 --> 00:39:29.519
Somebody knows somebody.

00:39:29.840 --> 00:39:37.440
If you're a kid in the same situation as you're a kid in the same situation as Nick, don't use Vicks Vapo.

00:39:38.800 --> 00:39:38.960
Yeah.

00:39:39.199 --> 00:39:40.639
No, remember Jurgens.

00:39:40.719 --> 00:39:43.119
This this podcast is sponsored by Jurgens.

00:39:43.360 --> 00:39:43.599
Yeah.

00:39:43.679 --> 00:39:43.920
Yeah.

00:39:44.159 --> 00:39:44.719
Yeah.

00:39:45.039 --> 00:39:47.519
Sponsored by Jurgens up Vix Vapor Rub.

00:39:47.760 --> 00:39:47.920
Yeah.

00:39:48.000 --> 00:39:49.679
Well, let's keep it that way.

00:39:50.480 --> 00:39:51.199
Yikes.

00:39:51.280 --> 00:39:52.000
That's stuff for you.

00:39:52.159 --> 00:39:58.400
Jeffy always goes side tangent out of control.

00:39:58.719 --> 00:39:59.599
That's the way the show works.

00:39:59.760 --> 00:40:01.039
That's the fun of it.

00:40:01.920 --> 00:40:04.159
Oh, it's fun, all right.

00:40:04.480 --> 00:40:05.920
Go ahead, Jeffy.

00:40:07.199 --> 00:40:08.239
I'm just saying.

00:40:08.480 --> 00:40:10.239
It it works that way sometimes.

00:40:10.960 --> 00:40:11.280
Sometimes.

00:40:11.679 --> 00:40:15.360
So anyway, back to do we we started with dating, didn't we?

00:40:15.519 --> 00:40:15.840
Okay.

00:40:16.239 --> 00:40:19.119
I think we started with dating in this era.

00:40:19.599 --> 00:40:20.320
In this era.

00:40:20.480 --> 00:40:20.639
Yeah.

00:40:20.880 --> 00:40:21.119
Yeah.

00:40:21.599 --> 00:40:27.199
And then the other thing we were talking about too was just like human interactions in general.

00:40:27.760 --> 00:40:28.079
Yeah.

00:40:28.320 --> 00:40:28.800
You know?

00:40:29.199 --> 00:40:29.440
Yep.

00:40:29.760 --> 00:40:33.039
Do it do you shake people's hands any longer when you meet them?

00:40:33.199 --> 00:40:35.199
Do you look somebody in the eye?

00:40:35.440 --> 00:40:40.880
Do you order from a server and not a QR code?

00:40:41.280 --> 00:40:41.599
You know?

00:40:41.920 --> 00:40:45.599
Like what the fuck is happening with human interactions in general?

00:40:45.920 --> 00:40:46.400
But see.

00:40:46.639 --> 00:40:48.000
Even outside of dating.

00:40:49.920 --> 00:40:52.079
I'll start with that, if you don't mind, Ricker.

00:40:52.320 --> 00:40:52.880
Go for it.

00:40:53.840 --> 00:40:56.880
That's my language I said about with a human interaction thing.

00:40:57.119 --> 00:40:57.679
Sure.

00:40:58.000 --> 00:41:00.239
No, I don't have jerkens at the table at Cartwright.

00:41:00.480 --> 00:41:00.639
Okay.

00:41:01.440 --> 00:41:02.000
Jerkins.

00:41:02.400 --> 00:41:03.440
But anyway.

00:41:04.079 --> 00:41:13.679
But yeah, I mean, let's let's take cartwrights, for instance, and and then our quote unquote table, who's the table actually started this podcast.

00:41:14.000 --> 00:41:14.639
Right.

00:41:15.199 --> 00:41:17.920
But we all met each other.

00:41:18.000 --> 00:41:19.039
Well, not you and me, right?

00:41:19.199 --> 00:41:21.119
But you know, Krista, you did.

00:41:22.000 --> 00:41:24.320
Jody and everybody else, and stuff like that.

00:41:24.400 --> 00:41:29.920
But you know, and now we we interact all the time there.

00:41:30.480 --> 00:41:33.599
You didn't know me from Adam or Nick.

00:41:34.639 --> 00:41:35.679
Definitely not Mo.

00:41:36.639 --> 00:41:38.239
You didn't know me from Nick.

00:41:38.639 --> 00:41:38.960
No.

00:41:39.440 --> 00:41:39.840
Yeah.

00:41:41.760 --> 00:41:45.920
So what do you think about that dynamic?

00:41:46.800 --> 00:41:50.639
About how how how how we all came together and stuff like that.

00:41:52.880 --> 00:41:58.159
Well, I think the interesting thing about that table is because this is human interaction or thing you were talking about.

00:41:58.480 --> 00:41:59.280
Yes, exactly.

00:41:59.440 --> 00:42:02.400
I think one part of it is the regularity.

00:42:02.719 --> 00:42:14.400
That if you see the same people regularly, and it like that your interactions become normalized and you start to feel safer with people and trust them.

00:42:14.719 --> 00:42:23.760
And then the interrelational dynamics too, like me and Carolyn are friends, you and Carolyn are friends, Rayette and Carolyn are friends.

00:42:24.000 --> 00:42:26.559
They share pictures of their underpants, you know?

00:42:26.719 --> 00:42:39.039
And so like the interactions kind of like triangulate to form this like group of people that you feel safe around.

00:42:39.760 --> 00:42:46.880
And you've known them across time, and with time you get to know them more intimately.

00:42:47.280 --> 00:42:48.960
But how damn cool is it?

00:42:49.360 --> 00:42:50.400
Really cool.

00:42:50.719 --> 00:42:51.360
It is.

00:42:51.920 --> 00:43:00.159
You know, because this this wasn't brought together by text and things like that.

00:43:00.800 --> 00:43:06.719
That was all it was all this show was not brought together by text and apps and shit like that.

00:43:06.960 --> 00:43:09.840
This is this is what the whole thing was premised on.

00:43:10.400 --> 00:43:18.480
And and you're you know, you've joined the fold, Krista, and even Ricker, because I mean nobody would really wanted to be on it.

00:43:19.280 --> 00:43:19.599
No.

00:43:20.480 --> 00:43:21.039
Not really.

00:43:21.280 --> 00:43:23.679
I thought I was gonna be a solo fool.

00:43:23.920 --> 00:43:25.599
Rayette didn't want to be on it.

00:43:26.320 --> 00:43:27.760
Believe it or not.

00:43:28.480 --> 00:43:31.679
I think the only person that would have really wanted to be on was Jody Jody.

00:43:32.000 --> 00:43:32.800
Jody's Jody, yeah.

00:43:32.960 --> 00:43:36.159
Jody Jody likes talking, so it's all good.

00:43:36.480 --> 00:43:38.400
She's a natural with a mic.

00:43:38.880 --> 00:43:39.280
Well, it is.

00:43:39.360 --> 00:43:42.800
She's a natural with with a microphone and she likes it.

00:43:43.119 --> 00:43:47.039
God knows I would never, ever, ever have thought Katie would have been on.

00:43:47.679 --> 00:43:52.159
That's crazy because she is hard to get to talk, period.

00:43:52.880 --> 00:43:54.079
A little bit without a mic.

00:43:54.480 --> 00:43:56.239
A little bit of the grape helps her out.

00:43:56.719 --> 00:44:03.599
It does, but I mean, even at that, she doesn't she's Not a very she doesn't talk a lot.

00:44:03.760 --> 00:44:04.800
And she don't hug.

00:44:05.519 --> 00:44:07.599
No, no, no, no, no.

00:44:07.920 --> 00:44:08.239
No.

00:44:08.400 --> 00:44:09.440
Well, here's the thing.

00:44:09.920 --> 00:44:18.320
What I've I I I don't know Katie that intimately, but what I've come to I could be wrong.

00:44:18.480 --> 00:44:27.199
What I've come to perceive about her is that she has a lot to say when there's an opening.

00:44:28.320 --> 00:44:31.679
Like a window and somebody that's she'll go.

00:44:32.000 --> 00:44:34.800
Like intentionally listening.

00:44:35.440 --> 00:44:38.880
You know, she's not gonna butt in to a conversation.

00:44:39.360 --> 00:44:41.280
Depends on how many cans of wine she has.

00:44:41.440 --> 00:44:41.599
Yeah.

00:44:41.920 --> 00:44:42.400
Well, yeah.

00:44:42.559 --> 00:44:47.760
And she's also she's different from Jody, you know, just temperamentally.

00:44:48.000 --> 00:44:52.639
But that doesn't mean that she's absolutely they're they're freaking night and day different.

00:44:52.960 --> 00:44:58.159
That doesn't mean that she doesn't have, you know, thoughts that she wants to share either.

00:44:58.800 --> 00:45:00.239
No, it she does.

00:45:00.400 --> 00:45:03.280
A lot of times she shares them unsolicited.

00:45:03.519 --> 00:45:03.840
Yeah.

00:45:04.239 --> 00:45:05.920
She pretty much hammers Ricker.

00:45:06.000 --> 00:45:06.639
Yeah.

00:45:06.960 --> 00:45:08.880
But that's okay because it's fun.

00:45:09.039 --> 00:45:09.519
It's great.

00:45:09.679 --> 00:45:10.480
It's a lot of fun.

00:45:10.639 --> 00:45:11.920
She's freaking, you know.

00:45:12.239 --> 00:45:14.159
She hangs more shit on this guy.

00:45:14.320 --> 00:45:14.960
Yeah.

00:45:15.760 --> 00:45:16.639
And it's fun.

00:45:16.960 --> 00:45:17.519
Than anybody.

00:45:18.079 --> 00:45:19.599
Everybody, everybody likes it.

00:45:19.760 --> 00:45:20.400
I like it.

00:45:20.480 --> 00:45:21.360
It's it's fun.

00:45:21.519 --> 00:45:22.000
She likes it.

00:45:22.639 --> 00:45:25.440
You got a little uh masochist side to you?

00:45:25.599 --> 00:45:27.519
No, that's a sadist, right?

00:45:27.760 --> 00:45:29.360
It's which is the one that likes Victoria.

00:45:29.599 --> 00:45:30.159
Masochist.

00:45:30.320 --> 00:45:31.119
Masochist.

00:45:31.280 --> 00:45:31.679
You're right.

00:45:31.840 --> 00:45:32.079
Okay.

00:45:32.320 --> 00:45:39.760
But no, it's it's fun because I like her and she likes freaking jamming me up, and we all enjoy it.

00:45:39.840 --> 00:45:40.400
It's fun.

00:45:40.559 --> 00:45:42.239
And I, you know, I give it back.

00:45:42.400 --> 00:45:43.840
It's not a big deal.

00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:45.599
And nobody gets hurt.

00:45:45.760 --> 00:45:47.599
It's all it's all in good fun.

00:45:47.840 --> 00:45:58.559
You could even you could even go into the dating concept to say that we were all like, or most of us were single, or shit like that, on there.

00:45:58.639 --> 00:46:07.519
And then that that probably would work with all of us, you know, being at the table and shit like that and doing that kind of stuff.

00:46:07.840 --> 00:46:08.800
Yeah, kinda.

00:46:09.280 --> 00:46:12.559
Kind of because it's all it was all organic.

00:46:12.639 --> 00:46:16.159
It it just happened because everybody started talking to each other.

00:46:16.880 --> 00:46:19.280
See, it's good fun, it's good banter.

00:46:19.519 --> 00:46:20.159
Yeah, that's it.

00:46:20.639 --> 00:46:24.800
Differences of opinion, different temperaments, different personality styles.

00:46:25.119 --> 00:46:25.440
Yeah.

00:46:25.599 --> 00:46:27.039
I mean, that's what it is.

00:46:27.440 --> 00:46:29.679
Rather than a fucking group text.

00:46:29.920 --> 00:46:31.599
But yes.

00:46:31.760 --> 00:46:36.639
Or if you were to like try to find friends on an app.

00:46:37.440 --> 00:46:41.039
I mean, let's be honest, you're probably looking for somebody like yourself.

00:46:43.360 --> 00:46:44.320
Yeah, and you know what?

00:46:44.400 --> 00:46:50.639
That that is that's a good point because we're comfortable and you it's we're all pretty different.

00:46:51.679 --> 00:46:56.639
You could probably say we're all we all have a lot of differences.

00:46:57.440 --> 00:47:04.880
I mean, Brad and I are probably as similar as it gets, and we're still a lot a lot different.

00:47:05.119 --> 00:47:05.760
Yeah.

00:47:06.079 --> 00:47:07.679
I mean, it's two people go.

00:47:07.760 --> 00:47:14.960
I mean, we're from the same state, we kind of like the same things in the same trade, and yet we're worlds apart.

00:47:15.119 --> 00:47:16.719
We're not the same people.

00:47:17.360 --> 00:47:25.760
And we're probably at that table as close as two, you know, two people can be as far as temperamentally in that.

00:47:25.840 --> 00:47:34.000
But 'cause to be honest with you, you're Christy, you're the newest one to the group, even though you've known Carolyn and stuff like that, but you can come to the table.

00:47:34.800 --> 00:47:50.000
And Well, there was a reason for that, but I was adjacent like at the What There's re I become available as an individual.

00:47:50.239 --> 00:47:50.639
Yeah.

00:47:50.880 --> 00:47:51.199
Right?

00:47:51.440 --> 00:47:51.599
Okay.

00:47:51.840 --> 00:48:08.000
So I would pop by the table and and talk to y'all and I just couldn't sit there with you guys and have the same kind of relationship because I was in a relationship that was prohibitive of allowing me to do that.

00:48:08.639 --> 00:48:11.280
Okay, but I get it.

00:48:11.840 --> 00:48:12.320
Excuse me.

00:48:12.559 --> 00:48:15.039
And that's yeah, I g okay, okay.

00:48:15.920 --> 00:48:19.360
Which sucks, but I I get it.

00:48:19.519 --> 00:48:19.840
Yeah.

00:48:20.400 --> 00:48:22.239
But that's not the case anymore.

00:48:22.559 --> 00:48:22.960
Right.

00:48:23.519 --> 00:48:37.039
So you know I think that when you first started coming to the table after everything happened.

00:48:37.360 --> 00:48:40.159
Your probation every period got over with.

00:48:41.199 --> 00:48:42.239
If you want to call it that.

00:48:42.480 --> 00:48:43.519
Yeah, it was great.

00:48:43.679 --> 00:48:50.639
You know, and and I've seen you evolve big time with the group.

00:48:51.360 --> 00:48:52.559
Which is cool.

00:48:52.880 --> 00:48:55.039
And there you go.

00:48:55.360 --> 00:49:01.840
When you we have the human interaction as you were talking about same with dating wise.

00:49:02.239 --> 00:49:02.719
Yeah.

00:49:03.360 --> 00:49:10.639
Oh, by the way, I didn't I did tell Eric that to stick that growler up his ass.

00:49:11.679 --> 00:49:13.280
That you requested, you know.

00:49:13.920 --> 00:49:14.800
Did he return it?

00:49:14.960 --> 00:49:18.719
Well, he said let him hold on to it for a while.

00:49:18.880 --> 00:49:22.000
Well, no, he said that uh he had to have like uh a lube.

00:49:22.320 --> 00:49:22.800
Oh, wait.

00:49:23.360 --> 00:49:23.840
He didn't voice.

00:49:24.000 --> 00:49:24.320
He sure did.

00:49:24.800 --> 00:49:25.440
He's gonna hear it.

00:49:25.519 --> 00:49:26.239
Is he gonna hear this?

00:49:26.400 --> 00:49:27.679
I'm gonna get in trouble for this.

00:49:27.920 --> 00:49:29.840
No, I already told him straight up.

00:49:30.079 --> 00:49:30.639
You did?

00:49:30.800 --> 00:49:32.239
You saw me, Jeff?

00:49:32.719 --> 00:49:33.280
Sure.

00:49:34.480 --> 00:49:38.400
It's not so much telling on you as telling for you.

00:49:38.639 --> 00:49:40.239
Well, I didn't say you said that.

00:49:40.480 --> 00:49:44.079
I said I was told to stick this up your ass.

00:49:44.480 --> 00:49:45.360
Telling for you?

00:49:45.599 --> 00:49:46.480
No, you didn't.

00:49:46.880 --> 00:49:47.360
Oh, sure.

00:49:48.400 --> 00:49:48.719
Sure.

00:49:48.880 --> 00:49:49.840
It's Jaffy.

00:49:49.920 --> 00:49:50.880
You should know better.

00:49:52.320 --> 00:49:54.480
If you put it in his ear, it's gonna happen.

00:49:54.719 --> 00:49:58.559
Oh no, it w I didn't he'd not I didn't tell her that you said it.

00:49:58.800 --> 00:50:01.039
Is that why he charged me extra today?

00:50:01.360 --> 00:50:02.480
Did he charge you extra?

00:50:02.639 --> 00:50:05.360
Is that why the veggie sandwich keeps getting messed up?

00:50:05.599 --> 00:50:06.239
The veggie sandwich.

00:50:06.320 --> 00:50:10.639
Well, he's a well he's not luckily he's not in that area of the of the store.

00:50:11.039 --> 00:50:11.199
Right.

00:50:11.760 --> 00:50:13.920
Yeah, so it's like, yeah, so yeah.

00:50:14.079 --> 00:50:15.119
Yeah, he probably charge you.

00:50:15.360 --> 00:50:17.599
No, he didn't I didn't I didn't say hey Aaron.

00:50:18.159 --> 00:50:24.000
We had a nice time going out and doing the billiards and you know, playing songs in the jukebox and the dating.

00:50:24.159 --> 00:50:24.639
There we go.

00:50:24.800 --> 00:50:25.920
No, not no no no.

00:50:26.079 --> 00:50:28.159
I'm just saying we're getting back to the dating era.

00:50:28.400 --> 00:50:30.559
You know, but then he got all weird to me.

00:50:31.599 --> 00:50:40.320
And I was like, oh, well, sorry, it's uncomfortable, but Okay, say, okay, let's let's go with this.

00:50:40.480 --> 00:50:51.599
Let's go with uh Johnny boy who you took out to play billiards with and not this guy who wanted to have a No, he was already playing billiards.

00:50:51.679 --> 00:50:53.519
I invited myself into his game.

00:50:53.840 --> 00:50:57.519
No, I'm talking about the one talking about the Growler up the ass.

00:50:58.159 --> 00:50:58.719
Oh, okay, yeah.

00:50:59.039 --> 00:51:00.000
Growler, yeah.

00:51:00.320 --> 00:51:03.920
Because I don't want to get in too much of your dating deal.

00:51:04.159 --> 00:51:06.800
But that's about the actually, yes I do.

00:51:06.960 --> 00:51:08.480
I uh uh what am I saying?

00:51:08.639 --> 00:51:09.360
Of course I do.

00:51:09.760 --> 00:51:10.719
What's the extent of it?

00:51:10.800 --> 00:51:12.719
But but maybe not on air.

00:51:14.000 --> 00:51:14.880
Yeah, I do.

00:51:15.360 --> 00:51:15.679
Okay.

00:51:16.960 --> 00:51:18.239
Of course you do.

00:51:18.559 --> 00:51:30.960
Well say that you're with guy A or should say, sorry, Guy E, and you went and played pool with.

00:51:31.280 --> 00:51:33.519
You have to call it billiards, it's pool.

00:51:33.840 --> 00:51:37.360
Unless you play well, it is a billiard it's the right thing to say.

00:51:37.840 --> 00:51:39.360
There's no pocket involved.

00:51:40.320 --> 00:51:41.039
Okay, pool.

00:51:41.440 --> 00:51:41.760
Thank you.

00:51:42.159 --> 00:51:43.599
So you all right, play.

00:51:44.079 --> 00:51:45.840
So you so you shot a little stick.

00:51:46.320 --> 00:51:46.639
Yep.

00:51:46.800 --> 00:51:47.760
There you go.

00:51:48.639 --> 00:51:52.480
And it got weird.

00:51:54.320 --> 00:51:54.800
Yeah.

00:51:55.039 --> 00:51:57.519
I mean, I felt like it was a really fun time.

00:51:57.760 --> 00:51:58.400
Yeah.

00:51:58.800 --> 00:51:59.599
You know, listen to the biggest.

00:51:59.760 --> 00:52:01.840
Well, you probably kicked his ass up and pissed him off.

00:52:01.920 --> 00:52:07.440
Um, I didn't kick his ass, but I think I flirted a little bit more than I should have.

00:52:07.679 --> 00:52:12.960
Because I was like practicing just the same as I was my billiards, my pool.

00:52:14.239 --> 00:52:16.559
Practicing the flirting and the billiards.

00:52:17.199 --> 00:52:17.519
I don't know.

00:52:17.599 --> 00:52:21.199
Maybe maybe I made him uncomfortable and that was my fault.

00:52:21.440 --> 00:52:27.519
But yeah, like seeing him back at cart rates, I was just like uncomfortable.

00:52:27.840 --> 00:52:28.400
Really?

00:52:28.719 --> 00:52:30.480
Kind of awkward after that.

00:52:30.639 --> 00:52:30.880
Yeah.

00:52:31.199 --> 00:52:34.880
Kind of curious to know how you quote unquote practiced.

00:52:35.679 --> 00:52:37.360
I mean, what do you mean by practice?

00:52:37.519 --> 00:52:39.039
I don't I don't know what you mean, honestly.

00:52:39.360 --> 00:52:40.559
Oh, I don't know.

00:52:40.800 --> 00:52:42.000
Just like, you know.

00:52:42.320 --> 00:52:43.519
Bat in the eyes.

00:52:43.840 --> 00:52:55.280
Yeah, dough eyes or like a little grays, you know, on the arm, or you know, like, oh, we love the same songs.

00:52:55.519 --> 00:52:56.239
How cool.

00:52:56.400 --> 00:52:58.079
I was just playing that on my guitar earlier.

00:52:58.559 --> 00:52:59.920
Give him a smack on the ass.

00:53:00.239 --> 00:53:00.480
No.

00:53:00.880 --> 00:53:02.239
Well, just say, come on.

00:53:02.480 --> 00:53:02.960
Well, no.

00:53:03.280 --> 00:53:05.039
Well, no, I'm saying come on to her.

00:53:05.519 --> 00:53:06.239
Oh, it's a good game.

00:53:06.480 --> 00:53:07.119
That's too far.

00:53:07.280 --> 00:53:08.159
No, it's why?

00:53:08.320 --> 00:53:09.519
No, it's a good game.

00:53:09.760 --> 00:53:10.559
That's what it's called.

00:53:10.719 --> 00:53:11.119
Good game.

00:53:11.280 --> 00:53:12.000
Good game.

00:53:12.239 --> 00:53:13.280
Good game.

00:53:13.519 --> 00:53:14.320
Yeah, good too.

00:53:16.320 --> 00:53:16.719
Good game.

00:53:16.880 --> 00:53:17.760
Good game.

00:53:19.920 --> 00:53:20.239
Okay.

00:53:20.800 --> 00:53:22.880
Maybe that's what you guys did in your sports.

00:53:23.199 --> 00:53:24.239
Oh, no, no, no, no.

00:53:24.320 --> 00:53:25.280
This isn't me.

00:53:25.920 --> 00:53:31.280
This is the women that I know, especially the one woman I know.

00:53:31.599 --> 00:53:32.559
I mean, this is like another.

00:53:33.519 --> 00:53:35.039
You guys can get away with that.

00:53:35.199 --> 00:53:35.519
Okay.

00:53:35.760 --> 00:53:36.320
Absolutely.

00:53:36.559 --> 00:53:38.719
You guys can get away with good gaming our ass.

00:53:38.960 --> 00:53:40.800
We can't get away with good gaming your ass.

00:53:40.960 --> 00:53:41.119
Okay.

00:53:41.440 --> 00:53:42.159
Okay, but guess what?

00:53:42.239 --> 00:53:44.880
I'm not going to do that on the first time playing billiards.

00:53:45.119 --> 00:53:47.440
Well, you could have, but I have a little.

00:53:48.960 --> 00:53:49.599
Is that it?

00:53:49.760 --> 00:53:51.440
Were you going to say self-respect?

00:53:51.840 --> 00:53:52.239
Cooth.

00:53:52.639 --> 00:53:53.039
Cooth.

00:53:53.280 --> 00:53:54.079
Oh, okay.

00:53:54.400 --> 00:53:54.719
Okay.

00:53:54.960 --> 00:53:55.199
Okay.

00:53:55.440 --> 00:53:57.440
You save that for the third or the fourth date.

00:53:57.599 --> 00:53:58.800
The little pat on the bottom.

00:53:58.960 --> 00:54:04.159
You don't give it all away, you know, the first time you play pool.

00:54:04.400 --> 00:54:07.039
I didn't go from you could bring it back from fucking Dallas.

00:54:07.119 --> 00:54:07.199
Yeah.

00:54:07.360 --> 00:54:07.519
You go.

00:54:08.559 --> 00:54:10.320
Yeah, good game, asshole.

00:54:10.480 --> 00:54:11.360
That's right.

00:54:12.159 --> 00:54:12.719
For what?

00:54:12.880 --> 00:54:13.679
Payoff, though.

00:54:14.719 --> 00:54:15.280
What am I going to do?

00:54:15.599 --> 00:54:17.840
The payoff is the freaking smack.

00:54:18.480 --> 00:54:19.519
But it is.

00:54:20.239 --> 00:54:20.880
It's a freebie.

00:54:21.119 --> 00:54:22.800
Because you could because you can get away with it.

00:54:22.960 --> 00:54:23.039
Yeah.

00:54:23.280 --> 00:54:23.440
Okay.

00:54:23.679 --> 00:54:24.960
Women can get away with that shit.

00:54:25.280 --> 00:54:27.920
Okay, I could get away with a lot of shit, but that doesn't mean I'm going to do it.

00:54:29.440 --> 00:54:31.360
You can't get away with smacking them in the junk.

00:54:31.519 --> 00:54:33.920
But you can get away with why would I do that either?

00:54:34.159 --> 00:54:35.360
I'm just saying.

00:54:36.079 --> 00:54:38.079
But you can get away with yeah.

00:54:38.559 --> 00:54:39.440
Wait, you know what else?

00:54:40.079 --> 00:54:41.360
You know what else I can get away with?

00:54:41.599 --> 00:54:41.840
Yeah.

00:54:42.079 --> 00:54:42.719
What?

00:54:44.000 --> 00:54:45.920
Never doing a pool again.

00:54:46.960 --> 00:54:48.079
With the same person.

00:54:48.320 --> 00:54:49.760
Uh move on to Nick.

00:54:50.559 --> 00:54:52.320
Well, you know what he was doing.

00:54:52.800 --> 00:54:53.440
Yeah.

00:54:53.760 --> 00:54:54.960
With jurgons.

00:54:55.119 --> 00:54:55.679
Yeah.

00:54:56.800 --> 00:54:57.519
Sorry.

00:54:57.760 --> 00:54:59.039
It's just gonna happen.

00:54:59.199 --> 00:54:59.840
That's the end of it.

00:55:00.079 --> 00:55:01.199
The stick was lubed up.

00:55:01.360 --> 00:55:01.679
Yeah.

00:55:06.239 --> 00:55:07.599
Let's let's call it what it is.

00:55:07.840 --> 00:55:09.119
Q is good.

00:55:10.239 --> 00:55:11.280
Not the white chalk.

00:55:11.599 --> 00:55:12.800
No, not the white chalk.

00:55:13.360 --> 00:55:14.079
It doesn't work the same.

00:55:14.559 --> 00:55:14.719
No.

00:55:14.880 --> 00:55:15.199
Yeah.

00:55:15.519 --> 00:55:16.480
Spully jergens.

00:55:16.719 --> 00:55:18.239
It almost rhymes with chalk.

00:55:18.400 --> 00:55:18.800
Yeah.

00:55:19.119 --> 00:55:23.039
But anyhow, anyway, but no, I'm just saying.

00:55:23.440 --> 00:55:24.320
It's another example.

00:55:24.480 --> 00:55:25.679
Okay, I tried it.

00:55:25.840 --> 00:55:26.960
I didn't have his phone number.

00:55:27.119 --> 00:55:28.639
I called his ass up at work.

00:55:28.880 --> 00:55:29.599
That was kind of cool.

00:55:30.559 --> 00:55:34.719
Hey, can you trans transfer me to the to the growler department?

00:55:34.960 --> 00:55:35.599
Really?

00:55:35.760 --> 00:55:36.159
Yeah.

00:55:36.480 --> 00:55:37.039
Well played.

00:55:37.519 --> 00:55:38.159
Like, hey, what are you doing?

00:55:39.039 --> 00:55:39.920
What are you doing after work?

00:55:40.159 --> 00:55:41.119
What are you doing after work today?

00:55:41.199 --> 00:55:42.559
You want to go play pool?

00:55:45.360 --> 00:55:46.239
I mean, well, sure.

00:55:46.480 --> 00:55:48.079
I think what do I have to lose?

00:55:48.239 --> 00:55:48.880
You know?

00:55:49.760 --> 00:55:50.400
Nothing.

00:55:50.639 --> 00:55:51.920
Oh, it was a fun time.

00:55:52.159 --> 00:55:55.920
See, and just didn't it just didn't amount to anything more, but that's fine.

00:55:56.159 --> 00:55:56.800
You know?

00:55:57.679 --> 00:55:58.320
That's it.

00:55:58.880 --> 00:56:02.079
You kind of tend to go toward the pool thing with guys.

00:56:05.840 --> 00:56:07.840
Because the hell's ooh about that.

00:56:08.079 --> 00:56:08.400
No, I do.

00:56:10.400 --> 00:56:10.719
No, I do.

00:56:10.880 --> 00:56:12.000
I thought you said ew.

00:56:12.400 --> 00:56:13.440
So why you know?

00:56:13.519 --> 00:56:24.000
I've heard a a lot of therapists talk about, you know, when you want to talk to young boys that are maybe nervous, like maybe maybe you have been as a young man.

00:56:24.480 --> 00:56:30.480
But as young is like when you want to talk to them about something, you know, go for a car ride.

00:56:30.719 --> 00:56:33.920
Because then they can face, you know, forward.

00:56:34.239 --> 00:56:38.960
You don't have to look at you directly in like a threatening way when you're making eye contact.

00:56:39.199 --> 00:56:41.039
So pool is kind of like that.

00:56:41.199 --> 00:56:45.599
You can kind of move around the table intermittently make eye contact.

00:56:45.840 --> 00:56:47.679
There's the competition part.

00:56:48.400 --> 00:56:51.039
There's uh maybe the jukebox.

00:56:51.360 --> 00:56:52.000
I kind of understand.

00:56:52.400 --> 00:56:54.960
You get your music involved.

00:56:55.280 --> 00:56:55.599
Okay.

00:56:55.920 --> 00:57:03.039
I just think that it's a nice environment for that's not it's perfect.

00:57:03.440 --> 00:57:07.760
It's not intimidating like sitting across from somebody at a bar table.

00:57:08.000 --> 00:57:08.079
Right.

00:57:08.639 --> 00:57:09.840
It's not nerve-wracking.

00:57:10.239 --> 00:57:11.039
What do you do for a living?

00:57:11.280 --> 00:57:18.159
But is it's kind of like, you know, it's kind of smart for you if you if you would have played it correctly.

00:57:18.800 --> 00:57:24.960
And when and when a minute, hang on, hang on, hang on a minute, hang on.

00:57:25.440 --> 00:57:30.239
And said, Oh, I really never I'm really not that good at it.

00:57:30.400 --> 00:57:32.079
Can you show me how to do this?

00:57:32.639 --> 00:57:33.519
I never have him.

00:57:33.840 --> 00:57:35.119
No, wait, look.

00:57:35.519 --> 00:57:37.920
That's that's it's a free opening, right?

00:57:38.239 --> 00:57:38.880
Free opening.

00:57:38.960 --> 00:57:40.079
Yeah, absolutely.

00:57:40.800 --> 00:57:42.880
And then it goes around, you know, it goes around you and it's okay.

00:57:43.119 --> 00:57:46.960
If he's gonna get the wrong idea about me, then I'm gonna be asking for help for all kinds of things.

00:57:47.440 --> 00:57:48.800
Oh, no, no, no.

00:57:50.239 --> 00:57:58.639
And then, and then if the if dude's like, well, I'm not gonna freaking show you how to play because I'm gonna kick the shit out of you in this game.

00:57:58.800 --> 00:58:04.079
Then you go to what there's a quarter, go play the jukebox and get the fuck out of here.

00:58:04.239 --> 00:58:04.800
Yeah.

00:58:05.039 --> 00:58:05.360
Yeah.

00:58:05.599 --> 00:58:07.679
Then you know that's a done deal.

00:58:07.840 --> 00:58:11.360
See, women have the advantage every fucking time on stuff like that.

00:58:11.840 --> 00:58:12.480
Absolutely.

00:58:12.719 --> 00:58:17.440
Okay, but why do I have to play like I'm weak or something and I need help?

00:58:17.760 --> 00:58:19.119
Not weak, and I need teaching.

00:58:19.280 --> 00:58:20.800
I need meaning.

00:58:21.039 --> 00:58:21.280
No.

00:58:21.519 --> 00:58:24.000
Oh, you're just playing koy.

00:58:24.239 --> 00:58:26.239
No, no, it's not playing koy.

00:58:26.400 --> 00:58:27.840
No, that's kind of.

00:58:28.320 --> 00:58:30.960
I'm not that's not I'm not built that way.

00:58:31.039 --> 00:58:31.280
No.

00:58:31.519 --> 00:58:32.239
I'm just saying.

00:58:32.480 --> 00:58:44.800
I'm gonna try to take my best shot, and if I want help, I'll ask for it, but I'm not gonna play the damsel in distress because I don't want to give them the wrong idea that that's how I'm gonna be forevermore.

00:58:45.199 --> 00:58:47.519
Because I'm not a damsel in distress.

00:58:48.079 --> 00:58:50.320
So I don't want to give them that wrong idea.

00:58:50.639 --> 00:58:50.960
Okay.

00:58:51.199 --> 00:58:53.119
Well, you know, you can okay.

00:58:53.440 --> 00:59:01.280
Could have been just a one-time thing and say, hey, look, and then you go, Oh, yeah, I think I got it now, and then you beat the living hell out of them in the pool.

00:59:02.639 --> 00:59:07.199
You go, oh, I'll have to practice a lot more, and then I'll show up as a real shark.

00:59:07.519 --> 00:59:08.960
Oh, you taught me well.

00:59:09.440 --> 00:59:10.000
Oh, okay.

00:59:10.880 --> 00:59:11.920
Thank you so much.

00:59:12.000 --> 00:59:13.519
And give them all the credit.

00:59:13.679 --> 00:59:14.159
Yeah.

00:59:15.119 --> 00:59:15.679
Great.

00:59:16.079 --> 00:59:17.840
That's a nice romance story.

00:59:18.159 --> 00:59:20.400
Let's play for 10 bucks, asshole.

00:59:20.960 --> 00:59:23.199
So now you're playing for money with your date.

00:59:23.360 --> 00:59:24.079
Now you're playing for money.

00:59:24.320 --> 00:59:24.639
That's great.

00:59:24.719 --> 00:59:26.000
You can go that's gonna work.

00:59:26.559 --> 00:59:29.360
You can go pool shark on the on and say, hey.

00:59:30.000 --> 00:59:30.480
Yeah.

00:59:31.679 --> 00:59:33.039
You can win some money on it.

00:59:33.119 --> 00:59:34.960
Because see, chicks are so wily.

00:59:36.960 --> 00:59:38.000
We already know that.

00:59:38.159 --> 00:59:39.679
They are so wily.

00:59:40.880 --> 00:59:45.440
I don't even try and outthink my wife because she's gonna win every time.

00:59:45.599 --> 00:59:49.039
I just concede the game at the start of it.

00:59:49.199 --> 00:59:49.840
Yeah.

00:59:50.320 --> 00:59:54.480
Which was, you know, whatever, 28 years ago.

00:59:54.719 --> 00:59:56.400
I'm not gonna even try.

00:59:56.800 --> 00:59:57.519
Wait a second.

00:59:57.599 --> 00:59:59.119
What do you mean chicks are wily?

00:59:59.519 --> 01:00:00.719
Man, you're gonna win.

01:00:00.880 --> 01:00:01.440
You have every advantage.

01:00:01.599 --> 01:00:02.480
They have all the angles.

01:00:02.800 --> 01:00:04.079
You have every advantage.

01:00:04.400 --> 01:00:05.920
I don't think that's what wily means.

01:00:06.159 --> 01:00:06.480
Yeah, it does.

01:00:06.719 --> 01:00:07.280
Yes, it does.

01:00:07.599 --> 01:00:12.400
It means they're smart and sneaky and they know how to play the game better than you.

01:00:12.719 --> 01:00:13.519
Absolutely.

01:00:13.679 --> 01:00:14.559
They're wily.

01:00:15.119 --> 01:00:16.239
They know how to play it better than that.

01:00:16.480 --> 01:00:17.679
What do you think it meant?

01:00:20.239 --> 01:00:21.440
Wily coyote.

01:00:21.760 --> 01:00:22.960
It's not wily coyote.

01:00:23.440 --> 01:00:33.760
Like wily, the way that I think about it is like unpredictable, like unbridled, like scrambling, scrambling all over the place.

01:00:34.000 --> 01:00:34.639
Like wild.

01:00:34.800 --> 01:00:38.239
I mean, wily, doesn't that come from the root word wild or no?

01:00:38.639 --> 01:00:43.199
I don't I don't know, but wily is from a wild kind of means unbridled.

01:00:43.440 --> 01:00:44.000
So wily.

01:00:44.320 --> 01:00:51.360
Wiley just means you're you know, you you know all the angles, you know how to get over on people, and you freaking.

01:00:51.840 --> 01:00:53.760
I think you guys are looking for a different word.

01:00:54.000 --> 01:00:55.360
Oh we're not.

01:00:55.599 --> 01:00:56.320
No, we're not.

01:00:56.559 --> 01:00:57.760
Wily coyote.

01:00:58.400 --> 01:01:01.840
He's supposed to be smart and freaking get over on the roadrunner.

01:01:02.079 --> 01:01:03.440
Doesn't work out for him.

01:01:03.679 --> 01:01:04.000
Okay.

01:01:04.480 --> 01:01:04.880
Yeah.

01:01:05.199 --> 01:01:12.239
But he's way smarter than a stupid roadrunner, and yet he always loses because he has his head.

01:01:12.480 --> 01:01:13.840
No, he's the roadrunner kicks his ass.

01:01:14.239 --> 01:01:15.760
The roadrunner tricks him every time.

01:01:15.840 --> 01:01:17.199
So he's not smarter than the roadrunner.

01:01:17.840 --> 01:01:18.800
I get it, but he thinks he is.

01:01:19.039 --> 01:01:29.280
But that was that's why the wily part of it is wily coyote is well but so then without context, how would you describe women as being wily?

01:01:29.760 --> 01:01:32.159
Wiley, I'm looking up on the Google.

01:01:32.400 --> 01:01:32.719
Okay.

01:01:33.840 --> 01:01:38.719
Skilled at gaining an advantage, especially deceitfully.

01:01:39.599 --> 01:01:41.039
Bing, bing, bing, bing.

01:01:41.280 --> 01:01:42.159
We have a winner.

01:01:42.400 --> 01:01:43.519
Deceitfully.

01:01:43.760 --> 01:01:45.760
That's what the Roadrunner did.

01:01:46.239 --> 01:01:50.880
That's what Wiley Coyote's trying to do in the cartoons.

01:01:51.039 --> 01:01:52.480
He's trying to.

01:01:52.800 --> 01:01:54.239
Doesn't mean he's good at it.

01:01:54.559 --> 01:01:56.880
He succumbed to the name was Wiley.

01:01:57.280 --> 01:01:57.920
Yeah, Wiley.

01:01:58.320 --> 01:01:58.960
Yeah, of course.

01:01:59.039 --> 01:01:59.199
Yeah.

01:01:59.360 --> 01:02:00.000
Wild E.

01:02:00.159 --> 01:02:00.400
Yeah.

01:02:01.119 --> 01:02:01.440
Yeah.

01:02:01.679 --> 01:02:02.559
Everyone knows that.

01:02:02.719 --> 01:02:04.079
Okay, yeah, here we go.

01:02:04.559 --> 01:02:05.440
Crafty.

01:02:06.239 --> 01:02:08.639
Things like that, you know, and stuff like that.

01:02:08.800 --> 01:02:10.800
So things of that nature.

01:02:11.039 --> 01:02:11.280
Yes.

01:02:12.559 --> 01:02:14.559
So yeah, and there you go.

01:02:15.280 --> 01:02:16.719
Chicks are so wily.

01:02:17.760 --> 01:02:18.400
Pretty much.

01:02:18.639 --> 01:02:19.199
And they are.

01:02:19.519 --> 01:02:25.360
So it wasn't like I wouldn't like degrading women.

01:02:25.519 --> 01:02:31.119
It's like, dude, there you guys are you have every advantage in the whole fucking world over guys anyway.

01:02:31.360 --> 01:02:31.840
Yeah.

01:02:33.039 --> 01:02:35.280
You have the most important advantage over us.

01:02:35.440 --> 01:02:35.920
You do.

01:02:36.400 --> 01:02:39.119
Which is what if you have to ask.

01:02:39.440 --> 01:02:42.719
Don't are you gonna seriously?

01:02:43.039 --> 01:02:43.679
You do.

01:02:46.079 --> 01:02:47.039
That makes a huge difference.

01:02:47.280 --> 01:02:48.320
Do we have to say it?

01:02:48.480 --> 01:02:48.639
No.

01:02:48.719 --> 01:02:49.440
No, I'm not gonna say it.

01:02:49.840 --> 01:02:50.079
Okay.

01:02:50.239 --> 01:02:54.800
So we all know it's the unsaid thing in the room.

01:02:56.320 --> 01:02:56.800
It's true.

01:02:57.039 --> 01:03:00.559
It kind of makes men sound like a little bit pitiful.

01:03:01.360 --> 01:03:04.400
We are pitiful compared to you.

01:03:04.559 --> 01:03:05.119
Are you kidding me?

01:03:05.280 --> 01:03:08.639
You have all the advan Again, you have all the advantages.

01:03:08.960 --> 01:03:10.000
We are pitiful.

01:03:10.159 --> 01:03:11.920
That's why we grov all.

01:03:12.159 --> 01:03:12.800
Yeah.

01:03:14.079 --> 01:03:15.199
Please don't hate us.

01:03:15.440 --> 01:03:17.039
I tell that to Ryan all the time.

01:03:17.599 --> 01:03:18.800
I'm like, hey.

01:03:19.360 --> 01:03:24.800
Just because you have that, you think you can boss me around and do this, that, and the other?

01:03:24.880 --> 01:03:26.000
Well, that's where you're right.

01:03:26.239 --> 01:03:26.960
That's it.

01:03:27.599 --> 01:03:29.039
Absolutely right.

01:03:29.360 --> 01:03:30.400
Absolutely right.

01:03:30.559 --> 01:03:31.199
Yeah.

01:03:31.519 --> 01:03:33.840
There's no there's there's no getting around that.

01:03:33.920 --> 01:03:34.079
Yeah.

01:03:34.400 --> 01:03:36.079
How dare you think the truth?

01:03:36.639 --> 01:03:38.719
Yeah, because that's what happens.

01:03:38.960 --> 01:03:40.400
There's no getting around it.

01:03:40.880 --> 01:03:42.559
Advantage women.

01:03:42.880 --> 01:03:43.519
Yeah.

01:03:43.840 --> 01:03:46.079
No, not advantage.

01:03:46.320 --> 01:03:48.480
That's a W right there.

01:03:49.360 --> 01:03:49.599
W.

01:03:50.719 --> 01:03:52.639
They have the win every time.

01:03:53.039 --> 01:03:53.760
You can win.

01:03:54.159 --> 01:03:54.480
Yeah.

01:03:54.880 --> 01:03:59.039
You have so much winning.

01:03:59.280 --> 01:03:59.920
Yeah.

01:04:01.440 --> 01:04:01.920
You do.

01:04:02.159 --> 01:04:05.360
It's like being born six foot eight and being a basketball player.

01:04:05.679 --> 01:04:07.039
You're gonna win.

01:04:07.440 --> 01:04:07.920
Yep.

01:04:09.360 --> 01:04:10.880
Born six foot eight.

01:04:11.119 --> 01:04:12.480
You're not gonna lose.

01:04:14.880 --> 01:04:16.239
You don't agree with that?

01:04:16.480 --> 01:04:18.559
I'm no, I'm just trying to work through this idea of like.

01:04:18.960 --> 01:04:21.920
No, don't get don't put no don't put your sound.

01:04:22.159 --> 01:04:24.400
Don't put your don't put your therapist hat on.

01:04:24.719 --> 01:04:33.679
But also you guys are wily like uh We are knuckle dragging Neanderthals.

01:04:34.320 --> 01:04:39.119
Yes, you don't with the power of the P, which I know you guys were thinking of.

01:04:39.679 --> 01:04:40.320
Yes.

01:04:40.639 --> 01:04:46.239
You guys it just makes it seem like uh you guys are might as well be inanimate objects.

01:04:47.840 --> 01:04:48.960
Pretty much what we are.

01:04:49.039 --> 01:04:49.679
Yeah.

01:04:51.119 --> 01:04:52.559
Sort of, kinda.

01:04:53.280 --> 01:04:53.920
Yeah.

01:04:54.800 --> 01:04:56.239
You don't agree with that?

01:04:56.639 --> 01:04:56.960
No.

01:04:57.599 --> 01:04:58.239
You don't agree.

01:04:58.639 --> 01:05:01.679
You don't agree with this power of the P.

01:05:03.280 --> 01:05:05.440
Yeah No.

01:05:06.079 --> 01:05:14.559
Well, you need you need to you need to move into our camp as far as what's true, because that is the truth.

01:05:15.280 --> 01:05:17.440
Okay, you want me to agree.

01:05:17.920 --> 01:05:18.880
That's all you gotta do is agree.

01:05:20.639 --> 01:05:22.320
I'll move into your camp.

01:05:23.440 --> 01:05:24.079
Wait, what?

01:05:24.320 --> 01:05:26.800
Wait, well, we're way well, what?

01:05:27.039 --> 01:05:27.840
Wait, what?

01:05:29.280 --> 01:05:31.679
All right, there goes the knuckle dragon again.

01:05:31.760 --> 01:05:36.320
Yeah, now see, see, now we're we're totally freaking flumics.

01:05:36.639 --> 01:05:38.800
Totally, I don't know where this is going.

01:05:39.119 --> 01:05:45.760
I'm just saying you need to go ahead and agree with it because everybody else that you talk to, all your friends will say the exact same thing.

01:05:46.079 --> 01:05:49.119
Yes, we have the power of the pee.

01:05:49.519 --> 01:05:50.159
Yep.

01:05:51.119 --> 01:05:59.519
If you want this, and I'm pointing in that general region, you have to win this.

01:06:00.159 --> 01:06:01.280
In this, right?

01:06:01.840 --> 01:06:03.199
Isn't that true?

01:06:04.079 --> 01:06:04.719
Yeah.

01:06:05.199 --> 01:06:05.440
Yeah.

01:06:05.760 --> 01:06:06.400
You already won.

01:06:06.960 --> 01:06:07.440
You already won.

01:06:07.840 --> 01:06:12.480
You're okay with describing men as just being simple-minded and motivated by free.

01:06:13.119 --> 01:06:15.039
When it comes to that, it's like hell.

01:06:15.519 --> 01:06:16.159
Yes.

01:06:16.400 --> 01:06:20.239
That's funny because that was on the other Oprah podcast that I listened to.

01:06:20.800 --> 01:06:22.320
Well, fuck Oprah, man.

01:06:22.400 --> 01:06:22.880
I'm telling you.

01:06:22.960 --> 01:06:23.840
Well, we're we're the truth.

01:06:25.440 --> 01:06:26.239
The truth is here.

01:06:26.400 --> 01:06:26.719
Yeah.

01:06:27.280 --> 01:06:27.920
Not Oprah.

01:06:28.079 --> 01:06:28.559
We'll tell you the truth.

01:06:28.960 --> 01:06:31.840
Take it from Remember, I'm an unfiltered conversationalist.

01:06:32.000 --> 01:06:32.480
Oh, shh.

01:06:32.960 --> 01:06:35.519
So yeah.

01:06:35.679 --> 01:06:36.000
Yeah.

01:06:36.320 --> 01:06:36.639
No.

01:06:38.159 --> 01:06:39.119
It's the truth.

01:06:39.280 --> 01:06:42.639
And yeah, it's not that we're okay with that.

01:06:42.800 --> 01:06:44.000
It's just that that's the world.

01:06:44.480 --> 01:06:45.039
Human nature.

01:06:45.199 --> 01:06:46.480
That's the world we live in.

01:06:46.719 --> 01:06:47.760
It's human nature.

01:06:47.920 --> 01:06:50.239
You guys got it, and we want it.

01:06:50.400 --> 01:06:51.360
And we want it.

01:06:51.599 --> 01:06:55.840
And we and we have to acquiesce.

01:06:56.239 --> 01:06:57.039
Figure out whatever.

01:06:57.280 --> 01:06:58.480
Figure out how we have to get it.

01:06:58.880 --> 01:07:00.800
You guys don't want anything else?

01:07:01.360 --> 01:07:02.079
Like what?

01:07:02.400 --> 01:07:03.199
Dinner?

01:07:03.920 --> 01:07:05.519
We can cook for ourselves.

01:07:05.679 --> 01:07:06.880
You realize that, right?

01:07:07.119 --> 01:07:07.440
Okay.

01:07:08.559 --> 01:07:09.519
We can provide our own home.

01:07:09.760 --> 01:07:14.239
Are you talking about like another utility is that we will cook for you?

01:07:14.559 --> 01:07:16.639
No, you're talking about companion shit.

01:07:16.800 --> 01:07:18.480
Are you talking about someone to listen to the city?

01:07:18.639 --> 01:07:19.679
Oh, see, that's all fine.

01:07:20.320 --> 01:07:20.559
Yeah.

01:07:20.719 --> 01:07:22.559
Yeah, that's just a side benefit.

01:07:22.719 --> 01:07:22.880
Yeah.

01:07:23.199 --> 01:07:26.239
You can go down to car rights and get yourself one of those pre-made dinners.

01:07:26.320 --> 01:07:27.519
You don't need a woman for that.

01:07:27.760 --> 01:07:29.360
But what else could you use a woman for?

01:07:30.480 --> 01:07:31.760
Are you talking about do we need love?

01:07:31.840 --> 01:07:33.119
Do we need affection?

01:07:33.360 --> 01:07:34.320
Yeah, we do.

01:07:34.639 --> 01:07:35.280
That's right.

01:07:35.519 --> 01:07:36.079
We do.

01:07:36.800 --> 01:07:39.599
But in the meantime, you're making jokes about the power of the pea.

01:07:39.920 --> 01:07:42.480
Well, the power of the pea is uh immutable.

01:07:43.039 --> 01:07:44.800
Everything immutable.

01:07:44.960 --> 01:07:46.880
There is no freaking getting around it.

01:07:46.960 --> 01:07:47.920
There's no love and effects.

01:07:48.239 --> 01:07:55.440
There's no love, there's no affection, there's no anything else unless at the power of the pea.

01:07:55.599 --> 01:07:56.239
Yep.

01:07:58.960 --> 01:08:00.000
You agree with us, right?

01:08:00.159 --> 01:08:01.280
Well, goodness that okay.

01:08:01.440 --> 01:08:02.320
You have to.

01:08:03.119 --> 01:08:06.000
I'm accepting it, but I'm also terribly disappointed.

01:08:06.239 --> 01:08:06.880
Don't be disappointed.

01:08:07.039 --> 01:08:11.920
Well, you can be disappointed, but you're disappointed in two guys that are disappointed.

01:08:12.320 --> 01:08:14.880
We love because this is a world that I'm entering into.

01:08:15.280 --> 01:08:15.679
Dudes love.

01:08:16.000 --> 01:08:18.319
Okay, so my value is in the P.

01:08:18.720 --> 01:08:18.960
No.

01:08:19.199 --> 01:08:24.720
No, no, that is not you're you're looking at at it from your side.

01:08:24.960 --> 01:08:27.840
This is not about so much because I have a P.

01:08:28.239 --> 01:08:29.119
I know you have a P.

01:08:29.439 --> 01:08:30.000
I get it.

01:08:30.239 --> 01:08:35.680
But it it's not about you so much as it's what we're chasing.

01:08:37.840 --> 01:08:39.680
I know, I understand that.

01:08:40.720 --> 01:08:42.800
That's the that's the whole thing.

01:08:42.880 --> 01:08:43.680
It's okay.

01:08:43.840 --> 01:08:46.800
Well, you could I mean you can go get someone on the internet.

01:08:47.279 --> 01:08:50.880
You can get something else on the internet that serves the same purpose.

01:08:51.359 --> 01:08:59.760
You don't need a whole human being with like a personality and values and the relationship.

01:09:00.079 --> 01:09:01.520
That's just a freaking bonus.

01:09:01.840 --> 01:09:04.720
You can go and get a pocket pee or something if that's so important to you.

01:09:05.119 --> 01:09:07.600
Yeah, that's not that's not the same.

01:09:08.159 --> 01:09:10.479
Okay, well, that's why I'm asking you to elaborate.

01:09:10.640 --> 01:09:14.000
Like it's not that simple as just pursuing the pee.

01:09:14.479 --> 01:09:17.359
No, I'm saying you have the pee, you have the power.

01:09:17.520 --> 01:09:18.159
That's it.

01:09:18.399 --> 01:09:19.439
I know, I understand that.

01:09:19.680 --> 01:09:23.199
And we do love and we do have affection, and we do, and we do love that.

01:09:23.760 --> 01:09:25.039
That's that's very true.

01:09:25.199 --> 01:09:26.159
Don't get me wrong.

01:09:26.319 --> 01:09:26.960
Yep.

01:09:27.680 --> 01:09:31.520
But but when it comes right down to the fact, yeah.

01:09:33.279 --> 01:09:35.520
You get Jace, you got it.

01:09:35.680 --> 01:09:38.640
Yep, because you you're you're the winner.

01:09:39.039 --> 01:09:39.680
That's it.

01:09:39.920 --> 01:09:40.560
You're the winner.

01:09:40.720 --> 01:09:42.239
Winner, winner, pee dinner.

01:09:42.560 --> 01:09:46.319
That's that's absolutely it.

01:09:46.960 --> 01:09:47.920
You win.

01:09:48.319 --> 01:09:49.680
If you're lucky.

01:09:51.279 --> 01:09:52.239
It's not lucky.

01:09:52.560 --> 01:09:54.800
See is lucky, isn't it?

01:09:55.439 --> 01:09:57.439
It's lucky if you do get that.

01:09:58.079 --> 01:09:58.960
For us, yes.

01:09:59.279 --> 01:09:59.520
For them.

01:09:59.840 --> 01:10:00.880
Oh no, not for them, yeah.

01:10:01.359 --> 01:10:03.119
They freaking win every time.

01:10:03.359 --> 01:10:04.319
It's not luck.

01:10:04.640 --> 01:10:05.520
And we're okay.

01:10:05.760 --> 01:10:06.159
Look.

01:10:08.079 --> 01:10:12.640
Normally I'm outnumbered with women, and then yep, now you're outnumbered.

01:10:13.920 --> 01:10:16.159
And yet she's still gonna win.

01:10:16.399 --> 01:10:18.960
Yes! She's still gonna win this argument.

01:10:19.199 --> 01:10:20.239
What you want, Krista?

01:10:20.640 --> 01:10:21.359
A beer?

01:10:22.239 --> 01:10:24.399
Yeah, well, my little seltzer is in there.

01:10:24.560 --> 01:10:25.520
Oh, your seltzer.

01:10:25.760 --> 01:10:27.119
You guys are taking me to the edge of the side.

01:10:27.279 --> 01:10:29.279
Oh, it's in the it's in the refrigerator inside.

01:10:29.520 --> 01:10:31.039
We're gonna get we're gonna get done real quick.

01:10:32.159 --> 01:10:34.640
Yeah, you guys are uh What?

01:10:34.960 --> 01:10:48.239
Taking me to the edge of uh mankind in a different way, just with the Are you saying we're we're savages and we can't freaking be reasoned with?

01:10:48.560 --> 01:10:49.760
No, just being earnest.

01:10:49.840 --> 01:10:50.880
I appreciate it.

01:10:51.039 --> 01:10:58.079
Because, you know, like this is the ling- I like trafficking and understanding humans and communication.

01:10:58.399 --> 01:11:05.359
So it's very interesting to have this kind of like behind the veil person.

01:11:05.920 --> 01:11:08.399
Oh, this there's no veil here.

01:11:08.800 --> 01:11:09.359
Pulling back the curtain.

01:11:09.760 --> 01:11:10.479
Well that's what I'm learning.

01:11:10.800 --> 01:11:11.359
Pulling back the curtain.

01:11:11.760 --> 01:11:13.920
No, there's actually no veil whatsoever.

01:11:14.239 --> 01:11:19.600
No, there's pay no attention to that man behind the curtain.

01:11:19.840 --> 01:11:20.479
That's right.

01:11:21.359 --> 01:11:27.279
You gotta remember we are simple creatures and we know that we lose every time.

01:11:27.520 --> 01:11:29.279
So we're good with it.

01:11:31.600 --> 01:11:31.920
Okay.

01:11:33.600 --> 01:11:34.239
That's it.

01:11:34.399 --> 01:11:34.720
Okay.

01:11:34.960 --> 01:11:35.199
Okay.

01:11:35.680 --> 01:11:40.000
I just still feel like maybe that's a story you're telling yourself.

01:11:40.319 --> 01:11:41.600
I'm so simple.

01:11:42.720 --> 01:11:44.720
I'm I'm pretty simple.

01:11:45.119 --> 01:11:51.760
You just you just ask your girlfriends at cart rights, and then they're gonna go, oh fuck, yeah, they're right.

01:11:52.960 --> 01:12:04.079
Yeah, I think I think I think this this conversation you don't you don't think that it's uh how do I put this?

01:12:09.039 --> 01:12:20.399
Just the s the sentiment of somebody having like more faith in you that you're more than just a simple knuckle-dragging monkey.

01:12:20.960 --> 01:12:24.000
Like that doesn't feel nice at all.

01:12:24.640 --> 01:12:25.760
I'm okay with it.

01:12:25.920 --> 01:12:27.119
We're we're just used to it.

01:12:27.359 --> 01:12:31.760
I I'm yeah, I mean We were born in we are born into the world, is that well?

01:12:32.079 --> 01:12:34.960
I mean, people get used to being told all kinds of things about themselves.

01:12:35.039 --> 01:12:36.319
That doesn't mean that it feels good.

01:12:36.560 --> 01:12:37.680
Well, hold on.

01:12:37.760 --> 01:12:44.960
It it's you know, for uh I I think I think we're oversimplifying it just a bit.

01:12:45.359 --> 01:12:46.800
You are, yes.

01:12:47.279 --> 01:12:58.319
But we we find our place being, you know, knuckle draggers as that's our place.

01:12:59.119 --> 01:13:01.680
I mean we're good at we're good at sharing this beer.

01:13:01.840 --> 01:13:02.640
Yeah, we're sharing this beer.

01:13:02.880 --> 01:13:03.600
We're we're good at it.

01:13:04.239 --> 01:13:06.880
I don't have any cooties that I know of.

01:13:07.199 --> 01:13:09.359
I just I just got tested too.

01:13:10.159 --> 01:13:18.560
We're trainable animals, but we're still in the long run, we're we don't mind being animals.

01:13:19.039 --> 01:13:20.800
That's uh that's our deal.

01:13:21.920 --> 01:13:22.720
We're just dudes.

01:13:23.119 --> 01:13:23.600
Yeah.

01:13:23.920 --> 01:13:24.560
We're simple.

01:13:24.880 --> 01:13:25.920
We're dudes, we're simple.

01:13:26.640 --> 01:13:28.880
It doesn't take much to freaking make us happy.

01:13:29.199 --> 01:13:31.600
This is where I mean I think there's a disconnect.

01:13:31.920 --> 01:13:32.479
I'm a simple man.

01:13:32.800 --> 01:13:38.960
If you're in like a heterosexual relationship, women don't want you to keep believing, well, I'm just simple.

01:13:39.039 --> 01:13:42.479
I'm a monkey, I'm knuckle draggling, dragging.

01:13:42.960 --> 01:13:45.039
Don't expect much more from me.

01:13:45.279 --> 01:13:46.880
That's where women get frustrated.

01:13:48.560 --> 01:13:52.560
Reducing yourself to that, like, well, I'm not really capable of much more.

01:13:52.640 --> 01:13:54.960
I'm just a simple monkey over here.

01:13:55.439 --> 01:13:56.399
We're exaggerating that a bit.

01:13:57.119 --> 01:13:57.520
We are.

01:13:57.600 --> 01:13:59.199
We're exaggerating that a bit.

01:13:59.680 --> 01:14:04.319
Women know women know part of it is at your core.

01:14:04.720 --> 01:14:06.960
Because you're smart, you're wily, and you know it.

01:14:07.520 --> 01:14:08.479
Oh, yeah, exactly.

01:14:08.800 --> 01:14:09.439
Yeah, I'm aware of the people.

01:14:10.640 --> 01:14:13.920
We're simple when it comes to simpletons.

01:14:14.239 --> 01:14:15.680
You want to present as being simple.

01:14:15.840 --> 01:14:18.239
No, we're simple when it comes to women.

01:14:18.640 --> 01:14:19.039
Yeah.

01:14:19.760 --> 01:14:21.840
It's pretty simple what we want.

01:14:23.760 --> 01:14:24.560
Literally.

01:14:24.800 --> 01:14:26.319
It's pretty simple.

01:14:27.439 --> 01:14:28.079
You know?

01:14:28.479 --> 01:14:29.760
We love chicks.

01:14:30.000 --> 01:14:31.760
We yes, absolutely.

01:14:32.079 --> 01:14:33.680
We very much so do.

01:14:33.840 --> 01:14:38.640
So it's it's not like it's, you know, gosh, this is higher.

01:14:39.439 --> 01:14:43.359
And I'm okay with going like, hey, you know what?

01:14:45.600 --> 01:14:48.800
You know, hey, not just the power of the P.

01:14:49.119 --> 01:14:53.039
I'm just saying, I'm okay with that, you know, like, hey, you know, we need you guys.

01:14:53.279 --> 01:14:53.600
Okay.

01:14:54.720 --> 01:14:59.039
I like I like the way you look, I like the way you feel, and this stuff like that.

01:14:59.359 --> 01:15:00.479
I like stuff like that.

01:15:00.560 --> 01:15:04.399
And and the way we feel with each other and stuff like that.

01:15:04.640 --> 01:15:04.880
Yep.

01:15:05.039 --> 01:15:06.640
That's what the deal is.

01:15:07.119 --> 01:15:07.439
Yeah.

01:15:07.680 --> 01:15:09.520
But you still own the power.

01:15:09.760 --> 01:15:10.560
That's it.

01:15:11.439 --> 01:15:11.760
Okay.

01:15:12.079 --> 01:15:14.880
And so what what do women get in return?

01:15:16.399 --> 01:15:17.680
Whatever you want.

01:15:17.920 --> 01:15:18.479
Yeah.

01:15:18.800 --> 01:15:19.279
Yeah.

01:15:19.520 --> 01:15:20.319
That's it.

01:15:20.800 --> 01:15:21.600
Like what?

01:15:22.159 --> 01:15:24.159
You tell us because you have the power.

01:15:24.319 --> 01:15:24.960
Yeah.

01:15:25.760 --> 01:15:29.439
You you have to cross that threshold before the no happens.

01:15:29.680 --> 01:15:32.720
And it may be a thousand miles down the road.

01:15:32.960 --> 01:15:34.399
But it's not like that, trust me.

01:15:34.880 --> 01:15:39.600
Every time it's like you because you because I'm just asking, because you guys just told me I had the power of the pea.

01:15:39.840 --> 01:15:41.039
But you do have the power of the pee.

01:15:41.279 --> 01:15:45.920
Some but there's some young man told me that if I cook him dinner, he will clean up the dishes.

01:15:46.079 --> 01:15:47.840
And so that doesn't really feel like it.

01:15:48.239 --> 01:15:50.560
Yeah, but you know, here's the thing.

01:15:50.720 --> 01:15:51.119
There you go.

01:15:51.199 --> 01:15:53.760
And he said, Oh, no, no, no, no.

01:15:54.239 --> 01:15:59.920
You're, you know, it doesn't feel like it, but all you have to do is go like, fuck you.

01:16:00.479 --> 01:16:01.279
Oh, I couldn't.

01:16:01.439 --> 01:16:04.800
Well, you could you could have no, no, no, no, no.

01:16:05.520 --> 01:16:07.920
You you have you you're like, fuck you, dude.

01:16:08.000 --> 01:16:08.640
Not to him.

01:16:08.960 --> 01:16:09.600
Saying in your mind.

01:16:09.840 --> 01:16:10.640
Oh, theoretically.

01:16:10.800 --> 01:16:11.119
Yeah.

01:16:11.279 --> 01:16:11.920
Fuck you.

01:16:12.079 --> 01:16:16.079
You know, you're you're not getting any of this.

01:16:16.319 --> 01:16:16.880
Yeah.

01:16:17.199 --> 01:16:18.159
I have it.

01:16:19.600 --> 01:16:20.239
You don't.

01:16:20.399 --> 01:16:24.159
You could have just said, what what's your next best offer?

01:16:24.720 --> 01:16:26.399
Because that first offer sucked.

01:16:26.720 --> 01:16:31.039
I wouldn't have tried interested in, anyways, because he is a little baby.

01:16:31.279 --> 01:16:31.520
Okay.

01:16:31.840 --> 01:16:32.560
Just a little kid.

01:16:32.960 --> 01:16:33.199
Again.

01:16:33.439 --> 01:16:34.319
Not a literal kid.

01:16:34.399 --> 01:16:36.159
I don't want to believe that it was a kid.

01:16:36.319 --> 01:16:37.039
You can just go, hey, look.

01:16:37.760 --> 01:16:38.319
20 something.

01:16:38.560 --> 01:16:40.640
This isn't shark tank asshole.

01:16:40.880 --> 01:16:41.520
Yeah.

01:16:42.079 --> 01:16:42.399
Yeah.

01:16:42.640 --> 01:16:42.960
You know.

01:16:43.199 --> 01:16:45.279
We're not, we're not after the lowest bid.

01:16:45.439 --> 01:16:45.840
Yeah.

01:16:46.560 --> 01:16:48.239
Bring bring your bed up.

01:16:49.039 --> 01:16:51.199
I I don't think he meant any harm or foul by it.

01:16:51.600 --> 01:16:51.920
But he did.

01:16:52.319 --> 01:16:55.840
He just didn't he doesn't know any better.

01:16:56.159 --> 01:17:00.880
Well, it's good that young kids are getting smarter by shooting him down.

01:17:01.199 --> 01:17:03.520
At least he approached me a couple of times.

01:17:04.399 --> 01:17:05.359
Oh, a couple of times.

01:17:05.520 --> 01:17:05.680
Yeah.

01:17:06.159 --> 01:17:07.439
Yes, several times.

01:17:07.760 --> 01:17:08.000
Okay.

01:17:08.239 --> 01:17:10.800
That's more than, you know, 30, 40, something.

01:17:11.119 --> 01:17:13.840
If he's at least he went for it.

01:17:14.560 --> 01:17:15.600
I'll give him credit for that.

01:17:15.920 --> 01:17:16.159
He did.

01:17:16.239 --> 01:17:16.399
Yeah.

01:17:16.560 --> 01:17:17.680
He went for it.

01:17:18.640 --> 01:17:20.399
And then he got shot down, thank God.

01:17:20.640 --> 01:17:21.600
It's just not for me.

01:17:21.760 --> 01:17:22.399
Yeah.

01:17:22.960 --> 01:17:23.600
Yeah.

01:17:23.840 --> 01:17:28.159
Because it would have been pretty cool if you if he would have said that shit to you and you went, eh.

01:17:30.319 --> 01:17:30.640
Yeah.

01:17:30.880 --> 01:17:33.680
And did the whole freaking X right.

01:17:34.399 --> 01:17:35.520
What does that mean?

01:17:35.760 --> 01:17:36.640
Not happening.

01:17:36.880 --> 01:17:37.840
Not happening.

01:17:38.079 --> 01:17:38.880
Oh, okay.

01:17:39.680 --> 01:17:40.720
And you're gone.

01:17:40.880 --> 01:17:41.520
Yeah.

01:17:42.000 --> 01:17:42.319
Well.

01:17:42.720 --> 01:17:44.720
Go go back there into the and go back.

01:17:45.279 --> 01:17:45.920
Just been playing.

01:17:46.159 --> 01:17:47.760
I would have just said, oh, no, thank you.

01:17:47.920 --> 01:17:53.680
Or actually, what would have been better is like if you said, go back to the meat department and play with it.

01:17:54.880 --> 01:17:55.279
Jeff.

01:17:55.760 --> 01:17:57.039
That would have been awesome.

01:17:57.279 --> 01:17:58.640
That would have been fantastic.

01:17:59.840 --> 01:18:00.800
Okay, in a movie.

01:18:00.960 --> 01:18:02.159
I would never.

01:18:03.439 --> 01:18:04.960
That is so rude.

01:18:05.840 --> 01:18:08.399
It's not rude so much as it's appropriate.

01:18:09.359 --> 01:18:10.239
No, it's not.

01:18:10.640 --> 01:18:12.720
That's so that's unkind.

01:18:13.199 --> 01:18:17.199
It's funny in theoretically, but in real life.

01:18:17.920 --> 01:18:18.960
It's funny.

01:18:19.760 --> 01:18:21.600
In real life, it's not no.

01:18:21.840 --> 01:18:23.039
In real life, that's mean.

01:18:23.279 --> 01:18:26.960
You're gonna, you're gonna fucking yeah, that's a see that's a knuckle dragger.

01:18:27.039 --> 01:18:29.520
Yeah, you're gonna cook beef dinner and shit like that.

01:18:30.159 --> 01:18:30.399
Okay.

01:18:30.560 --> 01:18:35.279
And then you go, hey, go get your ass back to the meat department and go play with it.

01:18:35.520 --> 01:18:35.920
Yeah.

01:18:36.079 --> 01:18:37.119
That's it.

01:18:38.079 --> 01:18:38.720
Yeah.

01:18:39.520 --> 01:18:43.760
In what world would I ever talk to someone that was?

01:18:44.079 --> 01:18:44.640
You had that option.

01:18:44.800 --> 01:18:49.279
I know, but you annoying me, in what world would I ever say something like that to someone?

01:18:49.680 --> 01:18:51.920
Uh probably next week if he tries it.

01:18:54.000 --> 01:18:54.880
Maybe Hulk.

01:18:55.119 --> 01:18:56.239
Because I gave you that gift.

01:18:56.399 --> 01:19:03.760
No, there's only there's actually only one person that I've spoken to instead of real bad words to.

01:19:04.560 --> 01:19:06.079
And it wasn't a man.

01:19:06.560 --> 01:19:09.439
And I didn't even and there wasn't even a bad word involved.

01:19:09.600 --> 01:19:09.840
Yeah.

01:19:10.000 --> 01:19:12.159
Just go back to the meat department and play with it.

01:19:12.399 --> 01:19:13.600
Play with your meat.

01:19:15.439 --> 01:19:17.840
No, I don't, but here I am.

01:19:17.920 --> 01:19:24.560
I'm complicit in this whole epidemic that we're talking about, discouraging young men from approaching women.

01:19:24.800 --> 01:19:25.840
No, it's not even.

01:19:26.159 --> 01:19:35.600
So if I go ahead and give him that feedback and then he's gonna go with his tail between his legs, no, he's discouraged, then I'm complicit in this epidemic.

01:19:36.319 --> 01:19:37.119
It's not no.

01:19:37.279 --> 01:19:43.119
It's a it's a you know what it's consequences to what you say doesn't feed into this epidemic.

01:19:44.239 --> 01:19:46.720
Thank you rather than go play with your meeting.

01:19:47.039 --> 01:19:48.239
You gotta look at it this way.

01:19:48.640 --> 01:19:52.960
If there is a smack down involved, maybe there should be.

01:19:53.199 --> 01:19:54.479
It's a teachable moment.

01:19:54.640 --> 01:19:55.600
That's it.

01:19:56.479 --> 01:19:58.560
There's times when it's a teachable moment.

01:19:59.199 --> 01:20:01.680
You you have to that's not the way to teach, though.

01:20:01.840 --> 01:20:04.000
Yes, yeah, but but but hold on, hold on.

01:20:04.159 --> 01:20:04.800
This is real life.

01:20:05.039 --> 01:20:20.479
Isn't there isn't there an appropriate response for an appropriate reaction for an appropriate an inappropriate you're reporting that's like an equal in equivalent proportionate, yes.

01:20:20.880 --> 01:20:21.520
Proportionate.

01:20:21.680 --> 01:20:23.119
Yeah, absolutely.

01:20:23.600 --> 01:20:29.039
I mean, I do agree that to propose that I'll take that as a yes.

01:20:29.760 --> 01:20:34.079
It is a yes that I make somebody dinner and then they do the dishes.

01:20:34.239 --> 01:20:35.600
I have a dishwasher, by the way.

01:20:35.760 --> 01:20:36.880
So I don't even need that.

01:20:37.199 --> 01:20:38.239
That'd be cheating for him.

01:20:38.319 --> 01:20:40.079
He wouldn't even get half to do anything.

01:20:40.159 --> 01:20:42.399
So I'd say my house.

01:20:42.640 --> 01:20:45.840
So did you just say that out loud?

01:20:46.000 --> 01:20:46.159
Yeah.

01:20:46.479 --> 01:20:46.880
Really?

01:20:47.600 --> 01:20:47.920
Yeah.

01:20:48.239 --> 01:20:49.760
He just wants to come inside your house.

01:20:50.880 --> 01:20:51.520
Yeah.

01:20:53.039 --> 01:20:53.359
Yeah.

01:20:53.760 --> 01:20:54.560
Take each word.

01:20:54.720 --> 01:20:57.039
Take each word and think about what no.

01:20:57.439 --> 01:21:01.039
I thought I I thought I thought I was being I I know.

01:21:01.119 --> 01:21:02.079
I get the pun.

01:21:02.159 --> 01:21:02.319
Okay.

01:21:02.640 --> 01:21:06.079
I'm not I'm born on a Tuesday, not last Tuesday.

01:21:06.960 --> 01:21:08.560
Born at night, not last night.

01:21:08.880 --> 01:21:09.039
Good.

01:21:09.199 --> 01:21:09.359
Right.

01:21:09.439 --> 01:21:11.119
Born on the weekend, not last weekend.

01:21:11.279 --> 01:21:11.520
Okay.

01:21:11.680 --> 01:21:14.640
However, go ahead.

01:21:15.279 --> 01:21:18.319
I'm not gonna invite anyone into my house.

01:21:18.560 --> 01:21:18.880
Okay.

01:21:19.279 --> 01:21:23.279
If their best offer is to do the dishes when I have a dishwasher.

01:21:23.840 --> 01:21:24.640
Of course not.

01:21:24.880 --> 01:21:26.800
Also, I don't see my house.

01:21:27.119 --> 01:21:28.399
Take me out somewhere.

01:21:28.640 --> 01:21:29.039
Exactly.

01:21:29.279 --> 01:21:30.079
I don't want to be emotional.

01:21:30.640 --> 01:21:35.760
See, there are but there there's a response to that, and that is your offer sucks.

01:21:36.000 --> 01:21:38.560
Yes, but I'm not gonna encourage him by doing it.

01:21:38.720 --> 01:21:42.880
So flag your goals back to the meat department and play with your meat.

01:21:43.119 --> 01:21:43.760
Right.

01:21:45.680 --> 01:21:46.479
Simple as that.

01:21:46.720 --> 01:21:50.079
Okay, well, I'm not in the business of hurting some young man's feelings.

01:21:50.239 --> 01:21:51.279
Here's Rayette.

01:21:51.600 --> 01:21:52.640
But you can be.

01:21:52.880 --> 01:21:53.680
Yeah, Rayette's.

01:21:54.079 --> 01:21:54.800
No, but I'm not.

01:21:54.960 --> 01:21:55.920
That's not my nature.

01:21:56.000 --> 01:21:57.279
I'm not doing that.

01:21:58.079 --> 01:22:01.920
If he says, Cook me dinner and I'll do the dishes, yeah, you will.

01:22:02.159 --> 01:22:05.840
If he said some weird shit about the power of the pee, you know.

01:22:06.159 --> 01:22:06.720
Rayette'll.

01:22:06.960 --> 01:22:11.199
Or staying up late at night or you know Thank God she's here.

01:22:11.439 --> 01:22:14.079
Rick, pull your microphone over there for her real quick.

01:22:14.720 --> 01:22:17.600
About the power about the power of the pea.

01:22:20.159 --> 01:22:21.279
That pee or this pee?

01:22:21.520 --> 01:22:22.159
That pee.

01:22:23.199 --> 01:22:24.159
Has all the power.

01:22:24.479 --> 01:22:25.279
That's right.

01:22:27.199 --> 01:22:30.479
Yeah, get over there and explain to her about the power of the pee.

01:22:32.079 --> 01:22:33.520
It controls everything.

01:22:34.479 --> 01:22:35.600
All the power.

01:22:36.880 --> 01:22:37.920
I talk loud.

01:22:41.920 --> 01:22:45.279
Like in general or in your relationship with your partner?

01:22:46.560 --> 01:22:49.359
What's your I would say your relationship with your partner?

01:22:49.760 --> 01:22:50.319
Probably both of them.

01:22:50.640 --> 01:22:52.479
Definitely in your relationship.

01:22:52.720 --> 01:22:53.119
Yeah.

01:22:55.920 --> 01:22:57.039
It's a real thing.

01:22:57.279 --> 01:22:58.079
I told you.

01:22:58.800 --> 01:22:59.520
I told you.

01:22:59.680 --> 01:23:01.600
If she if she can't if she was here right now.

01:23:02.159 --> 01:23:02.960
I'm a social worker.

01:23:03.039 --> 01:23:05.119
I'm all about like assessing power structures.

01:23:05.279 --> 01:23:06.479
I'm not abusing powers.

01:23:06.960 --> 01:23:07.359
I told you.

01:23:07.520 --> 01:23:08.640
Don't put that shit on here.

01:23:08.960 --> 01:23:09.520
No, I can't.

01:23:09.760 --> 01:23:12.159
It's the it's the real it's a real world here.

01:23:12.640 --> 01:23:13.439
I okay.

01:23:13.920 --> 01:23:18.880
It's not about abusing it, it's just that it's true.

01:23:21.520 --> 01:23:27.920
Girls, honestly, girls can go forever without having sex, and guys can't.

01:23:32.640 --> 01:23:38.000
So that they're trying to tell me that they're so simple, almost like they're not even human beings.

01:23:38.239 --> 01:23:38.800
We're simple too.

01:23:39.039 --> 01:23:39.760
They're so simple.

01:23:40.720 --> 01:23:43.199
Almost like amphibians or something.

01:23:43.920 --> 01:23:54.079
Because the they're s they're just like they can be controlled so easily by the power of the pee.

01:23:55.279 --> 01:23:55.840
Pretty much.

01:23:56.000 --> 01:23:57.279
They could do anything.

01:23:58.560 --> 01:23:59.600
Commit murder?

01:23:59.920 --> 01:24:01.760
I mean Dude!

01:24:03.840 --> 01:24:05.520
Have you watched State Line?

01:24:06.399 --> 01:24:12.800
It's all about you not watch crime stories and State Line.

01:24:12.960 --> 01:24:14.800
I'm trying to quit money and all that.

01:24:15.039 --> 01:24:16.720
I'm really trying to quit the crime stories.

01:24:17.840 --> 01:24:19.199
It's all about that.

01:24:23.680 --> 01:24:24.079
Yeah.

01:24:24.319 --> 01:24:24.560
Okay.

01:24:24.720 --> 01:24:25.760
Rigor, take that mic.

01:24:25.840 --> 01:24:30.960
Raya, come over here for a second and and just make things happen.

01:24:31.439 --> 01:24:37.039
I mean, you you you guys are not really making it very desirable to be in a relationship with the people who are.

01:24:37.279 --> 01:24:39.920
No, you're missing the point.

01:24:40.239 --> 01:24:43.680
It just kind of sounds like to me that all you care about is the P.

01:24:45.279 --> 01:24:47.840
And it's the truth.

01:24:47.920 --> 01:24:48.319
I don't know.

01:24:48.640 --> 01:24:50.000
No, that's not the truth.

01:24:50.159 --> 01:24:54.800
But when you're starting a relationship, it is a freaking major factor.

01:24:56.159 --> 01:25:02.880
You know, when you get to our age, it kind of, you know, it's not the same, but we lose the drive.

01:25:03.119 --> 01:25:03.680
We do.

01:25:03.920 --> 01:25:05.199
Everybody does.

01:25:05.520 --> 01:25:14.000
But at the same time, it's like when you're talking about 30 something, hell yeah, it's all about that.

01:25:14.319 --> 01:25:14.960
Yes.

01:25:15.279 --> 01:25:16.079
Of course it is.

01:25:16.239 --> 01:25:20.239
So now And it's not a negative because you get to drive the freaking equation.

01:25:20.479 --> 01:25:25.840
So now the odds are even because Rayette's here and she's going to explain about the power of the P.

01:25:27.680 --> 01:25:28.560
I'm not going to explain.

01:25:28.720 --> 01:25:30.239
I'm here to understand the power of the P.

01:25:30.399 --> 01:25:31.600
Yeah, Rayette's going to explain.

01:25:31.840 --> 01:25:33.680
No, I'm I pretty much did.

01:25:33.760 --> 01:25:37.279
I said men can't go without it, and women can.

01:25:37.920 --> 01:25:39.439
I just and what I tried.

01:25:40.079 --> 01:25:41.600
And they can't have it without us.

01:25:42.079 --> 01:25:45.680
I try to give them the benefit of the doubt that they're not that simple.

01:25:46.079 --> 01:25:48.800
Like no, they are simple.

01:25:49.199 --> 01:25:50.079
Like sorry.

01:25:50.479 --> 01:25:53.680
Like single-celled uh creatures, you know.

01:25:55.680 --> 01:25:59.920
I try to give them the benefit of the doubt, but then you know, they kept confessing to me.

01:26:00.079 --> 01:26:00.880
Yeah, we are simple.

01:26:00.960 --> 01:26:03.520
We all want to all we want is the pee.

01:26:04.399 --> 01:26:06.479
In the end, that is all they want.

01:26:07.039 --> 01:26:08.960
Well it's true.

01:26:09.439 --> 01:26:11.680
Well, that's so encouraging for dating.

01:26:11.840 --> 01:26:13.119
That's real encouraging.

01:26:13.359 --> 01:26:14.880
It should be encouraging for you.

01:26:22.000 --> 01:26:22.319
Right.

01:26:22.479 --> 01:26:24.239
But we we do love and then we do it.

01:26:24.399 --> 01:26:26.640
We are in fact, we do this kind of shit.

01:26:26.960 --> 01:26:27.119
Right.

01:26:27.520 --> 01:26:27.920
Yeah.

01:26:28.159 --> 01:26:31.119
But it is discouraging around dating, even in person.

01:26:31.359 --> 01:26:33.760
It's like, oh, all y'all want is the pee.

01:26:34.640 --> 01:26:44.399
That's why I feel like in dating, I think I would have to be their friend first and find out that there's more to them than just going in for a date.

01:26:44.640 --> 01:26:48.479
Like personally.

01:26:48.880 --> 01:27:05.520
You just have to understand that that honestly, you have to you have to believe that that there's just because our motivation is one thing doesn't mean there's more, there isn't more to us.

01:27:05.680 --> 01:27:08.000
But that's That's exactly what I said to you.

01:27:08.159 --> 01:27:11.279
I I know, but there was more to you.

01:27:11.680 --> 01:27:17.840
But they're the mo the major motivating factor at your age is gonna be that.

01:27:18.000 --> 01:27:22.000
And you have to understand that and use that to your advantage.

01:27:22.640 --> 01:27:24.319
In their 30s, yeah, absolutely.

01:27:24.640 --> 01:27:25.600
Absolutely.

01:27:28.479 --> 01:27:29.039
I don't know.

01:27:29.279 --> 01:27:31.119
Use use it to your advantage.

01:27:31.279 --> 01:27:33.439
This is not this is not hard.

01:27:34.239 --> 01:27:36.479
It's look at tomorrow.

01:27:36.720 --> 01:27:39.760
Tomorrow's gonna be a full slate of NFL games.

01:27:40.159 --> 01:27:42.399
It sounds very transactional.

01:27:43.119 --> 01:27:52.319
Like we've totally skipped over the part of getting to know each other, who you are, what do you bring to the table, your life history.

01:27:52.640 --> 01:27:57.039
The way that you're putting it is like, oh, you're in your 30s, you guys might as well fuck.

01:27:57.359 --> 01:27:59.119
No, that is not it.

01:27:59.279 --> 01:27:59.680
That's not

01:28:00.159 --> 01:28:01.119
That sounds to me.

01:28:01.359 --> 01:28:01.680
Okay.

01:28:01.760 --> 01:28:05.600
Look, maybe, maybe I can put this in a in a in a different way.

01:28:06.560 --> 01:28:09.600
You have the power to learn all that stuff.

01:28:09.840 --> 01:28:13.199
You have the power to find out what type of person there is.

01:28:13.680 --> 01:28:18.640
Because our motivating factor at that age is the pee.

01:28:19.520 --> 01:28:23.199
Then then we have to freaking acquiesce to your wishes.

01:28:23.520 --> 01:28:30.159
And acquiescing to your wishes is you get to find out everything you need to know about us before you go forward.

01:28:30.479 --> 01:28:35.199
I don't want a man that's just acquiescing to getting to know me because he wants a pee.

01:28:35.359 --> 01:28:36.239
Do you know what I mean?

01:28:37.439 --> 01:28:39.039
That's why you get to know him first.

01:28:39.199 --> 01:28:39.760
Yeah.

01:28:40.079 --> 01:28:41.359
You withhold the pee.

01:28:41.600 --> 01:28:42.000
Exactly.

01:28:42.479 --> 01:28:42.960
Yes.

01:28:43.199 --> 01:28:45.520
And then if they don't want to stick around, then you don't have to do it.

01:28:45.760 --> 01:28:48.800
Then you know that type of person isn't the person in the line.

01:28:49.199 --> 01:28:49.600
You're okay.

01:28:49.760 --> 01:28:51.039
Carry on on Tinder.

01:28:52.399 --> 01:28:53.279
Exactly.

01:28:53.600 --> 01:28:56.640
Because they won't say it strictly on there.

01:28:56.960 --> 01:28:58.800
My friend just went through this.

01:28:59.039 --> 01:29:04.159
She swiped right and left and whatever on any of those things.

01:29:04.399 --> 01:29:06.800
And she went out with quite a few of them.

01:29:07.119 --> 01:29:15.680
And in the end, at the end of the first date, they were already asking her like back to the house or whatever.

01:29:17.199 --> 01:29:19.279
And she was like, Nope.

01:29:20.560 --> 01:29:22.560
Finally, she ended up dating a guy.

01:29:22.720 --> 01:29:24.319
He was a real gentleman.

01:29:24.560 --> 01:29:28.159
They went on multiple dates, old fashioned type.

01:29:28.960 --> 01:29:31.279
Bought her flowers, took her to dinner.

01:29:31.680 --> 01:29:32.560
Now we're talking.

01:29:32.960 --> 01:29:34.239
It wasn't me though.

01:29:36.399 --> 01:29:37.359
You're married.

01:29:38.159 --> 01:29:40.159
If you're on there, then now you're divorced.

01:29:40.319 --> 01:29:41.359
We're not telling an old story.

01:29:41.600 --> 01:29:42.640
I just wanted to clarify that.

01:29:42.880 --> 01:29:43.039
Okay.

01:29:43.119 --> 01:29:46.560
It was not and it's not a story from years ago.

01:29:46.800 --> 01:29:47.039
Okay.

01:29:47.119 --> 01:29:47.279
Yeah.

01:29:47.359 --> 01:29:47.600
Good.

01:29:47.760 --> 01:29:50.239
And she so she finally found a good guy.

01:29:50.960 --> 01:29:55.760
And it was months in before she gave it up.

01:29:55.920 --> 01:29:56.720
But it started on what?

01:29:56.960 --> 01:29:57.920
It started on the app.

01:29:58.079 --> 01:29:58.640
Yep.

01:29:58.880 --> 01:29:59.279
Yep.

01:29:59.600 --> 01:30:02.880
So I mean, yes, there are decent guys out there.

01:30:03.119 --> 01:30:09.439
It's just weeding through that it's probably 10% decent guys and 90% not.

01:30:09.600 --> 01:30:11.199
Who's got that kind of time?

01:30:11.840 --> 01:30:16.239
But then the next question is where in the hell do you meet somebody in person?

01:30:16.479 --> 01:30:17.119
You know?

01:30:17.680 --> 01:30:19.840
Like, do I need to take up golf?

01:30:20.079 --> 01:30:22.159
Um, I'm not gonna, I'm not going to church.

01:30:22.960 --> 01:30:23.119
Okay.

01:30:24.319 --> 01:30:25.279
It's just a place.

01:30:25.359 --> 01:30:26.399
I'm not saying it's the only thing.

01:30:26.560 --> 01:30:27.680
I think church will let me in.

01:30:28.720 --> 01:30:29.039
Okay.

01:30:29.439 --> 01:30:30.479
But I mean, you know.

01:30:32.159 --> 01:30:37.279
I mean, I feel like you would want to meet them in the places that you like like to hang out.

01:30:37.439 --> 01:30:43.359
I wouldn't go to any of those places if you don't normally hang out with them because then you're telling them that's what you like to do.

01:30:43.439 --> 01:30:46.079
And if it's really not what you like to do, then you're leading them.

01:30:46.479 --> 01:30:48.399
You're stuck with it.

01:30:50.560 --> 01:30:57.760
I think you need to go to your places, whether it's cartwrights, whether it's Trader Joe's, whether it's a pottery class.

01:30:58.560 --> 01:30:59.039
Yes.

01:30:59.439 --> 01:31:02.960
Yes, because then you know that's what they like to do.

01:31:06.319 --> 01:31:09.359
Otherwise, I think you're leading them on.

01:31:09.840 --> 01:31:10.960
What about the gas station?

01:31:11.039 --> 01:31:12.479
I go to the gas station a lot.

01:31:12.800 --> 01:31:13.840
Is that a good place?

01:31:14.560 --> 01:31:18.479
I mean, if you want to act dumb and not know how to pump your own gas, maybe.

01:31:23.920 --> 01:31:29.119
But I just feel like that's like you have to go to the places you frequent.

01:31:29.600 --> 01:31:29.840
Yeah.

01:31:30.159 --> 01:31:31.840
Because that's what you would want to do.

01:31:32.079 --> 01:31:32.159
Yeah.

01:31:32.479 --> 01:31:32.960
I like hard.

01:31:33.199 --> 01:31:34.960
I like going to the movie theaters.

01:31:36.159 --> 01:31:39.359
That's a little harder to meet people, but just because, you know.

01:31:39.840 --> 01:31:42.399
Yeah, but it is nice and dark and romantic in there.

01:31:43.680 --> 01:31:44.399
Perfect.

01:31:47.760 --> 01:31:49.520
I probably should sing that ghost song.

01:31:50.640 --> 01:31:51.520
Probably shouldn't.

01:31:52.399 --> 01:31:52.880
What?

01:31:53.359 --> 01:31:54.159
I can't hear me.

01:31:54.960 --> 01:31:55.279
Oh.

01:31:57.600 --> 01:31:59.039
Did you say you're gonna sing a song?

01:31:59.359 --> 01:32:04.560
I probably should sing that ghost song since we're talking about pottery classes and shit, right?

01:32:04.800 --> 01:32:05.840
Oh yeah.

01:32:06.399 --> 01:32:07.199
That's very rare.

01:32:12.399 --> 01:32:14.720
How many listeners do you want to lose tonight?

01:32:14.960 --> 01:32:15.119
Yeah.

01:32:15.279 --> 01:32:16.399
You know what else was romantic?

01:32:16.640 --> 01:32:19.840
I don't have enough to even worry about that right now.

01:32:20.640 --> 01:32:24.800
You know what else was romantic was when What's his name?

01:32:25.039 --> 01:32:27.920
Pete Peter from the Ghostbusters.

01:32:28.800 --> 01:32:30.399
Remember he saved that girl?

01:32:30.560 --> 01:32:35.680
She was uh haunted by a ghost floating over her bed.

01:32:36.560 --> 01:32:39.520
And then the baby was out on the ledge.

01:32:40.880 --> 01:32:42.239
The baby is out on the ledge.

01:32:42.479 --> 01:32:44.960
Yeah, I think it was ghost time since we watched that.

01:32:45.279 --> 01:32:46.399
The one with the pink slime?

01:32:46.880 --> 01:32:47.840
Oh, I never saw that.

01:32:48.239 --> 01:32:49.920
No, I n I never saw the second one.

01:32:50.239 --> 01:32:51.119
That's unfortunate.

01:32:51.359 --> 01:32:52.560
I only saw the original.

01:32:52.720 --> 01:32:52.880
Yeah.

01:32:53.199 --> 01:32:55.359
And that was many, many, many years ago.

01:32:57.760 --> 01:32:58.399
Many.

01:33:01.359 --> 01:33:03.920
Nope, frequent the places you normally frequent.

01:33:04.079 --> 01:33:04.560
Yep.

01:33:05.039 --> 01:33:08.399
I wouldn't I wouldn't go to any of the places you don't normally frequent.

01:33:11.920 --> 01:33:13.039
Including the internet.

01:33:14.560 --> 01:33:15.359
Maybe.

01:33:18.399 --> 01:33:20.880
I mean I think it's a good tool to use.

01:33:22.560 --> 01:33:23.439
To find a tool?

01:33:23.600 --> 01:33:24.560
Well we were talking.

01:33:29.520 --> 01:33:35.119
But I think you can find a non-human tool on the internet too.

01:33:35.439 --> 01:33:36.239
Absolutely.

01:33:36.880 --> 01:33:39.520
I think it I think it can be available.

01:33:41.039 --> 01:33:43.600
I don't think every guy out there is a pig.

01:33:45.920 --> 01:33:47.760
Some are just piglets.

01:33:48.239 --> 01:33:49.680
Just a little bit piggy.

01:33:51.439 --> 01:33:51.920
Little babies.

01:33:52.159 --> 01:33:53.199
But so are women.

01:33:54.239 --> 01:33:55.359
Women can be pigs.

01:33:55.840 --> 01:33:56.800
For sure.

01:33:57.840 --> 01:33:59.119
Say more about that.

01:34:00.319 --> 01:34:00.640
No.

01:34:01.119 --> 01:34:02.239
No, that's it.

01:34:02.479 --> 01:34:03.439
That's all I'm gonna say.

01:34:06.800 --> 01:34:08.239
Self-admitted though.

01:34:08.880 --> 01:34:09.840
Most women.

01:34:10.399 --> 01:34:19.039
What most women are fine with admitting that they're pig just as dirty and nasty as their men.

01:34:19.199 --> 01:34:19.520
Yeah.

01:34:19.920 --> 01:34:20.479
Most of them.

01:34:21.119 --> 01:34:21.680
Sometimes.

01:34:21.920 --> 01:34:22.479
What do you mean?

01:34:22.720 --> 01:34:24.560
Like wanting sex, being horny?

01:34:25.039 --> 01:34:26.000
Being kinky?

01:34:26.880 --> 01:34:28.960
That's different than a pig.

01:34:33.039 --> 01:34:34.000
Oh, look at it.

01:34:34.399 --> 01:34:35.680
Ricker's blushing.

01:34:35.920 --> 01:34:45.279
No, I'm I'm trying to foment some kind of anger about this, but I can't because it's probably true.

01:34:45.840 --> 01:34:47.199
It's probably true.

01:34:48.479 --> 01:34:48.800
Yeah.

01:34:48.960 --> 01:34:49.920
I I don't know.

01:34:50.079 --> 01:34:53.520
That's that's a that's a we finally stumped Ricker.

01:34:53.680 --> 01:34:55.119
You get the dirty section, whatever.

01:34:55.439 --> 01:34:55.840
I don't know.

01:34:56.399 --> 01:34:57.520
Yeah, I think so.

01:34:58.319 --> 01:35:00.800
Let's just let's just table this for the moment.

01:35:01.119 --> 01:35:01.439
Okay.

01:35:05.520 --> 01:35:06.159
Well.

01:35:07.119 --> 01:35:14.159
I guess it's time for Jeffy to call it call it a freaking a day.

01:35:14.399 --> 01:35:15.439
And I'm back.

01:35:17.840 --> 01:35:20.000
Thanks, Raya, because I needed you on that.

01:35:20.239 --> 01:35:21.359
Yeah, no kidding.

01:35:21.439 --> 01:35:27.039
We need it we need a second female voice on this one to you know.

01:35:28.399 --> 01:35:30.960
At least have somebody admit that they win.

01:35:31.199 --> 01:35:34.800
And as for dirty sex that you were bringing up, Bricker?

01:35:35.119 --> 01:35:36.000
I wasn't bringing it up.

01:35:36.319 --> 01:35:37.920
I'm not gonna go into it right now.

01:35:38.159 --> 01:35:38.399
Okay.

01:35:38.880 --> 01:35:40.159
Yeah, we'll talk about that offline.

01:35:40.880 --> 01:35:42.560
Well, no, we're not gonna talk about it offline.

01:35:42.800 --> 01:35:43.680
Oh, yeah, we are.

01:35:43.920 --> 01:35:44.960
This isn't online.

01:35:45.359 --> 01:35:46.880
This is on the mic.

01:35:47.359 --> 01:35:49.039
Isn't doesn't it come out online?

01:35:49.279 --> 01:35:50.079
Well, kinda.

01:35:50.640 --> 01:35:53.439
But I told you I'm a Luddite.

01:35:53.600 --> 01:35:54.560
I already self-declared.

01:35:54.800 --> 01:35:55.279
I'm not saying that.

01:35:55.359 --> 01:35:59.760
I'm gonna I'm not gonna I'm not gonna ask you to tell us about dirty sex.

01:36:00.479 --> 01:36:00.800
Oh.

01:36:01.359 --> 01:36:04.079
There wouldn't be much to tell, frankly.

01:36:06.960 --> 01:36:08.319
It's a whole nother show.

01:36:08.720 --> 01:36:12.399
But you guys ready to wrap this bad boy up?

01:36:12.560 --> 01:36:12.800
Yep.

01:36:12.960 --> 01:36:13.600
Yeah.

01:36:14.000 --> 01:36:17.119
And then get ready for the dirty sex episode one of these days?

01:36:17.279 --> 01:36:19.119
It's not gonna happen, but you know.

01:36:19.279 --> 01:36:20.479
Well it might.

01:36:22.239 --> 01:36:23.680
You never know with this shit.

01:36:23.760 --> 01:36:24.399
Yeah.

01:36:24.960 --> 01:36:28.000
Thanks to the Ricker, he got us a new topic.

01:36:28.319 --> 01:36:32.159
I know, but he's I guarantee you he's not gonna tell the dirty deets.

01:36:33.279 --> 01:36:34.560
I don't have any.

01:36:34.800 --> 01:36:35.760
I don't have any.

01:36:36.319 --> 01:36:36.880
I'm cleaner.

01:36:37.439 --> 01:36:38.399
He proposed it.

01:36:38.640 --> 01:36:40.720
He loves proposing the idea.

01:36:41.039 --> 01:36:45.039
Teresa probably would, but I don't want to be involved in that conversation.

01:36:45.119 --> 01:36:47.680
That's between her and Oh Lord.

01:36:47.840 --> 01:36:48.239
Yeah.

01:36:49.039 --> 01:36:50.000
The Lord.

01:36:50.880 --> 01:36:51.760
That's right.

01:36:52.079 --> 01:36:53.119
Oh my god.

01:36:53.520 --> 01:36:56.239
That him Teresa might.

01:36:58.319 --> 01:36:58.640
Yeah.

01:36:58.720 --> 01:36:59.439
I'll I'll leave that.

01:37:00.079 --> 01:37:00.880
You got me thinking, though.

01:37:01.359 --> 01:37:02.479
I can wait for that.

01:37:02.720 --> 01:37:02.880
Yeah.

01:37:03.359 --> 01:37:04.000
Yeah, we all can't.

01:37:04.159 --> 01:37:06.720
That would be that would be women only.

01:37:07.520 --> 01:37:11.039
That you know, you should probably do that as a women-only thing.

01:37:11.279 --> 01:37:14.960
I think I I think that would be you, Rayette, hosting this whole thing.

01:37:15.279 --> 01:37:16.479
Yeah, that has to be a women's show.

01:37:16.800 --> 01:37:18.000
Yeah, I think so.

01:37:18.319 --> 01:37:22.239
And then we can listen to it and have no clue as to the bigger.

01:37:26.479 --> 01:37:26.800
No.

01:37:30.000 --> 01:37:31.520
Wouldn't you like that?

01:37:31.920 --> 01:37:33.840
Oh no, no, no.

01:37:34.800 --> 01:37:35.279
Anyways.

01:37:36.800 --> 01:37:42.000
I might have to break out a bottle of jergens on that show and after, you know, and listening to it.

01:37:42.319 --> 01:37:45.520
I'll I'll just I'll just let you have your day.

01:37:46.079 --> 01:37:47.600
Shoot spider webs all over the room.

01:37:48.640 --> 01:37:50.960
You've never been so quiet for in your life.

01:37:51.199 --> 01:37:53.840
So I'm not gonna say.

01:37:54.000 --> 01:37:54.960
I don't know what to say.

01:37:55.359 --> 01:37:56.159
That's okay.

01:37:56.479 --> 01:37:56.800
Okay.

01:37:57.039 --> 01:37:57.279
Yeah.

01:37:57.520 --> 01:38:00.800
And by the way, when I when I play outro music, you can still talk.

01:38:01.359 --> 01:38:03.680
Intro music, forbidden.

01:38:03.920 --> 01:38:04.720
Is it coming?

01:38:04.960 --> 01:38:06.479
Outro music, you can talk.

01:38:06.640 --> 01:38:07.039
Is it coming?

01:38:07.279 --> 01:38:08.159
No verboten.

01:38:08.720 --> 01:38:09.840
No verboten.

01:38:10.720 --> 01:38:11.039
Okay.

01:38:11.439 --> 01:38:12.399
Hey, thanks, Krista.

01:38:12.640 --> 01:38:13.520
Thanks, Ricker.

01:38:13.680 --> 01:38:14.000
Absolutely.

01:38:14.239 --> 01:38:15.840
Hey, good talking with you guys.

01:38:16.239 --> 01:38:16.880
It was fun.

01:38:17.119 --> 01:38:18.239
Yeah, it's been real fun.

01:38:18.479 --> 01:38:23.840
Jeffy McJerpherson at Almost Famous Radio Podcast.com for the email.

01:38:25.279 --> 01:38:26.479
We had a good time.

01:38:27.199 --> 01:38:27.760
Yeah.

01:38:28.000 --> 01:38:29.520
We had a right cameo.

01:38:29.840 --> 01:38:33.119
We won a quick share the pod with everyone.

01:38:34.000 --> 01:38:34.560
Yeah.

01:38:39.359 --> 01:38:41.119
Unless you were on it and you're a parent.